The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Alanon meeting opening reminds us of our purpose: to share our experience (of using program principles), strength (from the program, ) and hope (our improved outlook for our future) that helps us remain focused and is encouraging for others.
Reminder: Do I consider these elements in what I share, or is my focus on what I see as wrong? Do I try to bring my share of positive things to the fellowship?
"I will not expect a whole meeting to give ear to my woes. I prat that what I bring to it will help and inspire others, or pose a problem on which we can all sharpen our understanding." - Unattributed ----------------- I appreciate that this is not a request for me to just sugar coat my situation or be false in how I present reality to others, but it is helping me retrain my focus.
There are always things I can find fault with, but there are also ways to incorporate Alanon principles to my thoughts, actions and focus points. I will find what I search for, and believe what I see.
Grateful for the reminders and wisdom
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Thanks Paul for your service and for all above ESH. I heard on this board, what you focus on the longest becomes the strongest. Over my time in this program, I do allow myself to express and feel unpleasant things going on in my life, but I turn to gratitude and blessings to shape my day. There are horrible things going on all over the world daily. Yes they disturb me. But as I live ODAT, I look for the positive elements. Often they are as simple as walking my dog and seeing all the trees and flowers blooming. I also listen to all the bird songs. And in a short while, the bull frogs in a nearby pond will be belching out their tunes. I used to focus on all the pain my A brought me--it's a short spiral downward that can make me miserable. With practice I have learned how to enjoy my day. Grateful member.
Thank you Paul for your service/ESH. I appreciate all shares-the ESH serve as guideposts along my recovery journey. Yesterday I noted that it's time to make use of traditions in my relationships . Clearly the universe agrees. I stumbled on evidence this morning that my spouse has not mistaken
his meds in a few weeks. Not good. First I said the Serenity Prayer. Thanks to MIP member, I asked myself if saying/doing anything would help. Reminded self that if in doubt, don't and fought like he'll to keep my mouth shut. Turned it over to my HP and trust as taught , that his HP will guide him also. Now I'm waffling on my "firm" boundary set - no meds, no deal. Hmm. Right now, I'm focusing on being patient and compassionate. At least I'm not filled with dread and fear. Guess now would be a good time to dive into applying traditions in communication/ relationships. Thank you for being a safe space to share.
