The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Today's page considers alcoholism as a disease, something that cannot be controlled by will power alone. If that is so, why do I perhaps act toward the alcoholic like it can be?
Reminder - 'Arguments are useless against sickness.' Compassion and understanding are powerful and helpful because they teach me not to punish. Even if this Alanon approach does not bring change in the alcoholic, it will bring me peace and strength.
"I pray to remember, every day, every hour, and especially in times of crisis, that hostile behavior on my part will only add fuel to a fire that could destroy us both." ---------------- I've seen people get caught up in the technical debate about alcohol as a disease or not. To me, it doesn't really matter because my Alanon recovery is not about the alcoholic, it's about me: my internal perspectives and how I interact with others.
The perspective of Alcoholism as a disease helps me to show grace when I might otherwise not, to see the need and benefit of compassion rather than my first choice: anger.
Still a struggle, but much, much better when I remember that I am powerless, as they are, against alcohol. I didn't cause, can't control or cure it, but with the help of my higher power, I don't need to try.
Grateful for the reminders
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
This sure is a timely reading for me, I needed this reminder today.
Something I am guilty of is picking and choosing which A's I have compassion for and which I hold the belief that alcoholism is a disease. Seems kinda silly now that I have said that,if I believe it's a disease for one family member and have empathy for them it's so messed up to not feel and believe that for another.
