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Post Info TOPIC: 1/10/23 C2C If I Could Put Time (spent in fear & worry) in a Bottle…


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1/10/23 C2C If I Could Put Time (spent in fear & worry) in a Bottle…


...this author would have a lot of time in bottles that they didn't enjoy, having spent it in criticism, paranoia, self-criticism rather than useful accomplishment.

To break the cycle of 'mental static', they:

* got out of the regrets of past and fears of future, 

* learned to stay in and enjoy the present moment 

* prayed, meditated, used the Slogans and reached out to fellow AlAnoners

These adjustments reduced the 'static', made it easier to hear the guidance of their higher power, and left them better to navigate challenging times.

Reminder: This day is all I can work with, all that I need. When I find myself straying forward or back, I can retrieve it to the present. 

"The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exist. Ours only is the present's tiny point." - Mahmud Shaistari
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Staying in the present moment has been one of the most powerful tools in my recovery. By definition, it keeps me way from two dangerous places: past and future, for over neither do I wield any control. 

Particularly in stressful times, it clears out critical head space that is much better spent addressing the problem at hand rather than regret of how it came into existence or fretting of what it will lead to in future if unsolved. 

Great tool, great reminder, grateful

 



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Yes Paul, great reading and share. Thanks for your service. The reminder of keeping my head over my feet helps me often. I spent many days and hours worrying, feeling guilty, being self-critical, for the past and future. ODAT is a special gift of our program for sure. And trying to make it the best day possible, being aware of blessings and gratitude, have surely changed the way I live my life.

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Thanks Paul for your service and to you and Lyne for your shares. "When I have one foot in the past and another in the future, I miss the present."  Projecting about the future, ruminating about what's now passed and denial stole many minutes, hours, days even months before learning to use Al-anon program tools to keep present. The Serenity Prayer is one such tool. Understanding what is and what is not within my control, what would benefit from my taking action and what would benefit from my letting go and letting god. I have a self care list which I try to use daily that helps with maintaining my serenity and sanity. It's a Keep It Simple To Do list for addressing physical, emotional and spiritual care daily. The list includes and requires that I do something each day that brings me joy. I don't have to follow such a list perfectly. It's meant to be a nudge, a reminder that I need to advocate for my own sanity and serenity. My experience has been that when following these nurturing rituals, I'm more apt to stay present and live fully rather than give way to fears, worry, obsession or shoulding. 

 

 



-- Edited by tiredtonite on Tuesday 10th of January 2023 09:51:49 AM

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Lovely reading and shares Paul, thank you for your service.
I agree with you, Lyne and TT that staying grounded in the present
helps me to stay focused on this day and helps to eliminate projecting,
worrying and anxiety about the past and future. ODAT everyday and
these daily readings are wonderful reminders that help me stay on track.
Grateful Al-Anon/MIP member here!!

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Good Morning Everyone. This reading and all the shares has helped me focus on today. Thinking of spiRITUALS, I meditated and a plan came to mind. I will walk everywhere I need to go. We have winter coats that have shrunk over the years (lol) so I'm donating to a clothing bank. It brings me joy knowing someone in need will make use of them. Most importantly, I won't dwell on the past (depresses me sometimes) or the future (anxiety inducing). I will stay in today and count my blessings. Thank you for your ESH and reminder to Keep It Simple.

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