The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Todays reading talks about how difficult it is sometimes to accept the fact that we love someone we cannot trust.How, with each disappointing incident we recover, only to be disappointed again!
The reading goes on to say that our "heartache" can be alleviated if we learn to accept "reality" and that depending on our
experiences causes the confusion. That learning how to not rely on someones disappointing actions/words and at the same
time realizing that is not a pass to give up on anyone.
The reading commences with a call to "commitment" to be honest with ourselves, by facing that "reality" and become that
person to depend on instead of depending on someone else.
Quote: "Awareness is so much better for me than closing out all feelings, shutting out people, withdrawing from living."
"No matter how hard the truth is or what the facts are, I prefer to know, look at, and accept this day." ~ As we Understand
Wow, this trial has been one of the most difficult for me to get a handle on.Half the battle understanding the journey to self
reliance is well worth learning.For me, finding and accepting the reality that I owned those disappointments made it was so
much easier to move on and not hold the alcoholic responsible.
How is your progress with this subject?
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Thank you Debbie for this topic that is a part of my life with an A. I have made progress, though I'm not sure it follows what the reading says. I have come to accept that my A rarely can tell the truth. I will continue to be disappointed if I think the truth is coming. And it's not just about alcohol-related topics--it seeps into everything, including relatively unimportant things, like where the dog biscuits are. My A lies without thinking or blinking an eye. I no longer feel the rush of anger I used to get. I accept that most of the time I'm being lied to. It's very sad but I don't dwell on it. Progress not perfection.
