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Gailey


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As I was posting a private message today I realized something that was happening in my life. My a son and I are so alike. He is addicted to alcohol and I am addicted to food. I have not found serenity with his drinking and I have not found serenity around my bingeing. I think the only difference between him and me is that it is not unlawful to "eat and drive". The other thing is that I admit I have a problem and have never stopped searching for an answer to my recovery.

I want to find a sponser and work the 12 steps to help me deal with both things. I used to be in a 12 step program for the food but found that there was way too much emphasis on food. I like alanon so much more. It has help me in many areas of my life. So, this is my program of choice.

I too am trying to deal with the aism in my son's life and the insanity with my food. What I realize today is that it is just as hard...if not harder...for him to not take that drink when he is craving then it is for me to not eat that sugary food. It is an addiction and they are so powerful. It is just so much easier to give in to it than to have to fight it.

I am turning to God with my addiction and my son's addiction. I can not be angry with what he does because I truly know how he feels. I have said for many years that I now know how my A dad felt. I hope that I can get recovery for myself with the help of this program and God and that I can pass that hope to my son.

When I was in my 20's and 30's I really felt that I was one of those "unfortnates" because my dad never had recovery. It was a core belief of mine that I was just like my dad. You know...maybe that is how my son feels. I need to pray for strength to recover so that my son can see that it can be done.

Warmly...Gail

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Good Luck to you.  I lost over  30 pounds in the last year, I did it slowly and without a d@#$ scale!  I just simply did it with portion control, giving up calories rather than counting them.  I also drink tons of milk, it fills you up, and studies have shown that it does play a role in weight loss. I drink chocolate so my cravings for chocolate have decreased greatly.  I always increased my fresh fruit intake, I buy cut up fruit, more expensive, but ready to eat!  There are times I slip, but I don't worry about it, I just jump back on.  Good Luck to you, the cravings can be horrible at times just as an A's I assume, but I just try to distract myself till it goes away.


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gail ,ireally feel your pain coming through &agree wholeheartedly that you know the pain of addiction.in some ways i feel food addiction is more painful than any other.i hope you can find some support from this &know my prayers are with you!     mck  

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(((Gailey))) Food is a tough addiction too.  Granted it doesn't screw w/the chemical breakdown of brain cells as alcohol & drugs but hey it is an ugly battle just the same.  My dad is maybe 5'11" and weighs in close 400 lbs.  I see that and see it run down the family line and FREAK.  I say all of this as I am downing a handful of Cheetos. LOL.  I am not overweight...5'3" & 115 lbs.  Out of shape is a total different story.....my shape is all screwy haha.  I decided Jan 1 that I was going to lose 15 lbs (was weighting 125).  I have dropped that 10 lbs by cutting sodas mainly and doing 20 min of floor exercises every morning.  Granted I watch portion control (I threw the "You must clean your plate" theory out the door).  And am mindful of calories although I don't really keep track.  It is a slow process but completely do-able.


AND I also follow what jrt said - I drink LOTS of skim milk w/Hershey Syrup.  Boy does it kill that hunger pain....and MMMM chocolate.  I also follow a theory that says that a craving for food should go away within 30 min.  If it doesn't, then it won't. So I wait 30 min.  If I still feel that strong craving for something - I give in.  Granted I don't gorge myself.  But have a reasonable amount that will satisify that craving.  I try to find something to do physically to.  I tend to eat out of boredom.  Good luck and rememer we are always here for you for what ever you need. 


QOD



-- Edited by QOD at 14:18, 2006-05-02

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