The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Today's page considers the work of steps 8 & 9 as we list those we have harmed...and reminds not to forget to include ourselves.
We cannot, nor should not focus our efforts on saving or changing others. In Alanon we learn to turn our focus and efforts toward restoring the damage within ourselves. This leaves us in the best possible place for living and to be of service to others when we are able.
Reminder: 'To give advice to others is to intrude; to give advice to myself is to grow.' - RW Emerson ------------------ In my constant overreaching and interfering with others I fancied that I was helping, a gadfly stinging with truth. Instead, I was nurturing my own misery, disrupting the natural path of recovery for others and assuming the role of their higher power.
I was an unhappy mess, in no shape to be cajoling others; I still am not now, nor will be ever. I am, however, better able to sail my own ship thanks to the guidance of Alanon. Helping myself has been the best help I can give to myself and ultimately, others...grateful for the wisdom and reminders
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Thanks Paul for your service and very wise ESH. I am able to focus on myself much of the time, and strive to become my best self for me. On the weekend I told my son and dtr in law how they had harmed me. My son responded with love. With my A, I have made amends to her for the manner and times I have not been kind nor compassionate. This program has helped me with so many things I never expected. Grateful member always.
