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being ignored in a room


I am peeved. I had a very difficult time getting online tonite. I had to reboot the computer like 3 or 4 times. The screen kept freezing up. I cleaned the computer in hopes of having it run faster. I finally got into " miracles in progress" about 10 min till it was over.


I hung around after the meeting. I tried to have a conversation as I have some times before. I have never experienced what I did tonite. I am ignored enough by my active A in real life. I think it would have been nice for at least one person to acknowledge me. I do not have time to spend online and be ignored. I could be alone without getting online at all. I look forward to sharing some commenalities with others. Someone could have at least said this is a personal conversation we are having here.


I will still be courteous to others & treat them as I would want to be treated. I am still going to have a great day inspite of rude people.



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(((((((hmrnnrmm)))))))   Please don't hesitate to ask someone if you can (PM)  private message  with them. ((((HUGS))))))       ....   if your feeling the need to share.... need to talk    just say.,    "Need to talk please."   In ALL CAPS  if you like..LOL   (or)   "Can  I please private message  (PM) with someone?   Someone can and will guide you how to PM  if your still new to it. If noones there to PM with..... you can always come to the message boards.     I have to say    I love every one     wonderful people in the chatroom are always ready to listen.  I'm so sorry. I didnt see You in there     at the meetin     or    afterward ......... did come here a time afterward  to the boards to do some reading before retiring.


(((((hmrnnrmm))) sometimes a bit hard for me to keep up... lots chatting especially after a meeting..  But I do try.....lol.     Please to not to let this upset you tonight. Keep Coming Back.  ((BigHug)))       Keep Looking uP!    Work it your worth it!!



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I am sorry to hear that, hmrnnrmm.  I was not in chat last night, but Sometimes the room gets busy, and we are guilty sometimes of not "hearing" the desperation in someone's plea. 


I think sending a PM to someone in the group, someone whose name you recognize will help.  I have had good luck with that.  I have heard that Friday or Saturday nights are difficult to follow, there are so many conversations going on at once. 


I urge you to not give up.  It is easy to get overlooked in a chatroom, as all people see  of us are the written words, and not the person's physical being.


Hope to see you in chat sometime, and good for you for keeping on treating people as you would like to be treated.  We are all here because we have been damaged in some way by another's addiction.  We are glad you are here. 


Love in Recovery,


Becky1



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~*Service Worker*~

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Here's the thing, sometimes we are just so damn mad before we get in the room that we expect others to know this. If we don't speak up and say I NEED TO SHARE. how are they to know????????

If that doesn't work then you are in trouble.....lol

So sorry wasn't in the room for you.......keep coming back.........

Andrea

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hmr, Sorry about your experience.  I hope you'll try again, as most of us are sensitive to others in chat.  I agree with United here, and another trick is to click on a color block and bold type.


Someone will "hear" you if you use these ways to get their attention.   However, remember every single person in chat is looking for help the same as you are, so we need to practice patience .


Keep coming back, we love you even if we don't show it immediately.  :)


MsPeewee



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