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Maresie888


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Please note like other members I have been really alarmed by the amount of chaos there has been in this group 

This weeks edition with Audrey was all orchestrated by one person 

That person is of course out to cause maximum disruption and they succeed over and over again .

I am an essential worker out in the field every day.

This past year and a half has been very difficult for me. I.do not need more in my recovery 

Howev do have control over frequenting a grouo where there has been not that much effort to contro. This frequent disruption 

Whoever Audrey was she was out up to speaking out by David 

This is highly questionable and a planned diversion 

For months he was permitted to cause havoc in the group 

Then I learned this is not his first or last hurrah at this kind of 

exercise 

Boundaries are important to me.  Clearly they are not important to others. Being # set up# is not something I want to deal with any more 

I have no doubt until some very clear guidelines are in face this type of activity will continue 

Therefore the commitment is not really there with this group. 

 

This is tremendously disappointing

I have limits around chaos 

I am deeply disappointed that you have tolerated this deliberately provocation and continue to tolerate it 

 

 

I.deserve recovery not unremitting chaos every single day mich much better. 

 

Maresie 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



-- Edited by Maresie888 on Wednesday 4th of August 2021 11:44:31 PM

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DM2021


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Wishing you the best Maresie and understand why you need to take a break.

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JerryF


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I very often inventory my thoughts, feeling and behaviors to see how I am getting a/the picture.  I am of course the one in recovery not only because of how I have responded to life with an alcoholic/addict yet also because of how, when and why I have responded 

to other  people places and things around me. 

This is a program of progress and when I can get one foot in front of another and one day after another without acknowledging "You can or could of done better Jerry".   The  spirit of my program is progress; it is a spiritual program and I try to keep that in mind.  When things are not as I would like them to be I can exercise options such as this.  Be good Maresie we will be okay.



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Jerry F
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Maresie, many times I have thought about your dedication as an essential worker and regret not telling you how much I appreciate the service you provide in spite of the risks to your overall health. I wish you peace, joy and success. Thank you for being part of my journey.

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This program is all about learning to take better care of ourselves. It's progress when we're able to identify what we need and act in our own best interest, make our own well being first priority. Thanks for letting us know your plan. I hope you feel better for having taken a breather from the site for a bit. ((hugs))) TT



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I agree with TT that it is indeed progress when we know what we need to do for ourselves in our own best interests. When I get obsessive over people, I have found a good break from anything that reminds me of them is necessary so I applaud your insight into yourself and the action that follows the insight. Take good care. (((Maresie))).


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Wishing you well Maresie and thank you and all essential workers for your willingness to show up and serve the rest of us.

As for the drama/chaos/etc., I truly try to practice these principals in all my affairs. So, for me, I fully understand I am powerless over other people, places and things. I try really hard to not give my power away to anyone and I live in the present. Thus, when we collectively let go and let God, that's where my energy goes -- in being part of the solution.

I've taken breaks here before. It felt like the right thing to do at the time, not because of another but in support of me and my self-care.

There is not one thing I or we can change about the past. I have a deep compassion for all persons in recovery and it pains me to ban anyone who might be in need of support. There is no formal process for dealing with disruption here by design. I would never ban a member unilaterally and am grateful to all who gave input. Time takes time.





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Lyne


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There are no perfect relationships so I cannot expect a perfect MIP. If I felt more harm from help coming from MIP, I would leave. But I must say that I've been on the board for about 10 yrs and by far, my recovery has been nothing but helped. I have found not one, but two amazing sponsors. When I do my service on Mondays, if the reading and my share reach just one person, then I have done my job. Am going to try to keep my side of the street clean--that's all I can do right now.

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I agree Lyne, the benefits and connections with MIP and the membership, for me over the past 8 years

has been invaluable. There will always be individuals who will try to control for their own benefit. I

and I think everyone else, were not fooled and the person(s) were dealt with.

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Maresie888


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I most certainly appreciate the good wishes of people

The fact I am an essential worker is critical to my boundaries. I gave to work or rather I choose to work
Being independent matters to me
Being healthy matters.  


I have other choices where recovery is valued

NOTE FROM WEBHELPER: This post has been edited as it is off topic.  



-- Edited by Maresie888 on Sunday 8th of August 2021 10:39:04 AM



-- Edited by WebHelper on Sunday 8th of August 2021 04:36:39 PM

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I am sure you will find a space that works for you. I wish you well.



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