I pretty much knew some of what I was getting into. I married my boyfriend who I guess it's 'right' to call him an addict as he's smoked pot 50 yrs. Overall maybe it doesn't interfere with our relationship but I don't know enough to realize it is. I have seen him in stressful situations where I see how it affects him. We've only been married 2 weeks after both going through divorces and in our 60's. We can have great, fun times but then he can say something or give advice that is really unncecessary and gets under my skin. It insults my intellegence. He really go upset about something this morning and was frustrated because I wasn't going to do something his way. He did express his feelings that when he tries it's like he's hurt when I don't do it. He didn't see it as a good discussion. It must be hard to seem vulnerable. It seems like there are so many things we are going to have to work on I don't know where to begin. I get overwhelmed. 

But what am I supposed to do. One time I walked away without commenting and he said so you're not going to say anything. Oh I have been in Al-Anon for 5 yrs, not regularly lately though because problems with my worka holic ex husband. I never would have married this one if I did not have so much Al-Anon 'under my belt' but didn't think I would feel this unhappy so soon in our marriage.

Thanks for listenening