The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I appreciate that AA came up with various slogans and I have had to learn to interpret them. Everyday the bv wisdom of those slogans is a comfort to me.
There is being paralyzed by fear which is obviously very clearly possible in.a pandemic. Then there is a healthy fear
I work at night. Due to day light saving it is pretty dark at night. I am out in semi rural area so certainly walking around at night i have to proceed cautiously. I have to share this earth with others
For those of us who come from a traumatic childhoox there is no proceed cautiously. Every day in my family of origin I had to deal with violent chaotic responses from my parents and indeed my siblings so there was no safe harbor.
There is not much safe about being out inthe middle of the night
I hve had to learn how to navigate the new normal of the pandemic. That means negotiating difficult situations daily. Nothing is a given. Sometimes I do well with that. Al anon has helped me to learn how to forgive myself rather than beat kyself up or compare. Oh the pain of comparison!! I have also had to learn to forgive myself for even considering interacting with vicious abusiv e peopl e who lash out and call people names. Their attack response can of course be understood in a shame based concept. Nevertheless having people lash out at me is no longer the normal everyday experience for me. Now it is the abnormal so I have to.adapt.
I am far far far better at adapting one year in. So much better so much more flexible.
Great share Maresie! Thank you for your message and reminder about gratitude! Keep doing what you're doing - it looks great on you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I just wanted to share that I am living for the ESH on this thread!!
I think I may come back to this later so that I can digest the goodness some more!
Thank you!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Maresie - You are truly living in the present!! How wonderfully free your shares have been lately. Your program is showing... and it's a good thing!
Wishing you a peaceful Tuesday!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
