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~*Service Worker*~

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Gratitude


I am grateful today to be able to work with people who have very different viewpoints than me. Even in the middle of this crisis which had bought such suffering to.so many people .

I.am able to not react but respond with no need to convert them to my view point. How grateful I am to have maturity, tact and grace to be able to live and let live no matter what the situation. What a relief to put down the judgement  card that calculates just how dysfunctional people are and give them a grade (how arrogant that is when I look at it now). How wonderful to be able to be in the world even in.a pandemic and thrive rather than merely survive. 

Even in the worst of times I.have dignity and grace and acceotance of what is rather than a blind resolve that everything has to be #my.way# 

My meditation teacher says it is a hardship.to have life go exactly your way. How sweet it is to be able to appreciate that with patience and tact. 

Maresie  



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Thank you for the lovely, lovely share Maresie! I too practice gratitude today for all that is and for the letting go this program has allowed me to do. Keep doing what you're doing - it looks lovely on you!!

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aww aww aww...thanks for the reminder Maresie... smile...

I went from the  paralysis of analysis to an attitude of gratitude- veeeery slowly, at first... but hey! smile ...



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What a wonderful, positive share! Keep doing you, Maresie!!

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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness."  ~ Mary Oliver

 

 



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I know this issue was big for ne. I went from not being able to cope in the world to being able to find a way to glide through it 

Of course at the moment I am zero focused on  getting out of debt. In the past month I have paid down thousands of dollars worth of debt.  Then I got another large bill 

So being focused means that I can set aside a lot of other things.  Of course I am focused but also extremely tired. In addition I do not have my dog with me.  I miss my dog desperately.  He is such a loving oresence in my life.  

Nevertheless I am so grateful I can go out in the world and make a living. I am grateful to be able to find a way through thisvextremely hard time. I do not have to worry what i will don next I am doing it. I have to make it happen 

Believe me I wanted to cut back on work. Believe me I wanted to say I cannot do this.  Believe me in the past when I.got huge bills like I have in the past few months I woud have sunk into #poor poor me#  #poor poor poor me this is not fair# 

Now I roll up my sleeves and get on with it. 

I simply find a way to work through my problems. No #poor me#. now because I am responsible for my life. I am about to go to.work again. I work all.day then turn around and work all night.  Then I.come home and take care of things I hsve to.take care of.  Days off are not even a possibility when I.have so many bills. This gruelling schedule will not be for ever but it wil ve for a while.  Moreover I am working really hard not to be resentful of others who do not have to deal with this burden 

In additiin, of course, I am not trying to find someone to help.me 

The qualifier appeared as someone to help.me in another part of my life when I was struggling. We all know how much he helped.me.  He helped me to get really physically ill, he helped ne to feel.comoletely abandoned. He helped me to feel rage and grief and despair and intense frustration as he destroyed ny properry (he totalled ny vehicle) .

He really heloed me so so much to get as far away as possible on focusing on my.life. That is what I got for putting the id EA nof wanting someone to.help.me to.a ditch which I.have been climbimg out of for years. 

My life is a extremely hard it is absolutely gruelling and the pandemic has made it worse. On top of that I am living in a construction zone where drills are going non stop. I cane home the other day to find they had blockef off both the elevator abd the stairs. When I asked management how I was supposed to get to the apartment they were not that bothered 

The pressure is intense. The barriers and obstacles to reaching my goals are continuous but I have a focus I coukd not sustain before. I know that is from having some of the skill base I acquired in al anon.  I simoly did not have the skill base or the resilience before 

Maresie 

 

 



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