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can you mute or block someone on Private message???


I never asked this question, but I am wondering if you can mute or block someone on private message....I had this REALLY WEIRD exchange with someone with whom I thought I was sorta OK , but that changed  over, Lord knows what...I am NOT unsafe, but the exchange had a "cringe" factor to it...

 

 

 



-- Edited by mamalioness on Wednesday 14th of October 2020 02:56:40 PM

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Anyway I hope this question doesnt sound too stupid but here on the board we all sort of put our best foot forward and try to behave ourselves for the most part but on the messenger things can get ugly and insulting and Im sure that others have wondered the same thing about muting or blocking and just that way detaching with compassion for the person and letting go and knowing that youre never gonna see or hear from them again in the messenger. Its just a question if you cant block and mute then I guess the best course of action is when you see something from them Just hit the delete button I guess

Anyway With that note, everybody be safe and I am still laying very low only going to grocery store or pharmacy and to the gym and thats pretty much yet church is back open with face-to-face recovery groups but I am wondering at my age should I just lay low for a while longer. My girlfriend lost her long time old boyfriend to Covid so this disease is really real everybody! Be safe. Be careful

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Rose - I know of no way to block individuals with this platform - in this area or via PM. Sorry if you're being harassed/bothered. I have ignored trolls/other when necessary and delete if/when needed. Feel free to contact any moderator or admin. should it escalate and you need additional support. We (moderators) do NOT have access to see PMs beyond our own, so members are encouraged to try and work things out between themselves.

I've never changed up my own actions for the pandemic. I've continued to avoid public locations, gatherings, etc. We don't even go to the gym, only the golf course - which is an approved socially distant activity in our state. I am still picking up my grocery orders and having many items shipped to home. My hair is super long, quite interesting in color and my eyebrows are fashionably bushy....ha.ha.ha! We (my circle of close friends/family) ask ourselves if _____________________________ is worth getting sick or dying for. Each of us answers that a bit differently - but I hear you. Our state case count in on the rise as well as our hospital admits.



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Hey. IAH. Bless your heart for stopping in. No this was one of those how important is it? Things And the answer I gave to myself was it is not important. It was just a very low class insulting remark from somebody who obviously needs prayer more than anything else I guess. So now I know kind of what to do thanks to your sage advice as usual. Unless it is something really really bad, Ill just hit the delete button and send them some of gods love and MoveOn

I have been curious about this for a while and I guess this exchange made me think you know Ill just put this on the board and see if there is a way to mute or to block. So moving forward, Ill just hit the old delete button and MoveOn and send them a prayer. If it is really really bad, I will screenshot and send to you or Freetime. And let it go at that

I was very glad to hear that you are laying low and staying away from all the germs and everything. With me it is the grocery and pharmacy and the gym where I swim in the pool and I am by myself and thats about it. Work has been as dry as can be. And I dont care what people say, this is to be taken seriously if we are ever to get rid of this disease, I just pray everybody be safe and be proactive and self-care. Imagine my poor Sister having cancer just go wild on her at the end and she has to go to doctors and be medicated to be pain free as much as possible. She was at risk for getting Covid on top of it. I am reconnecting with my nephew and niece and I told them as theyre only little aunty left on maternal side , I am there for them and will help with the memorial and the obituary and everything. We are going to do something special on her Facebook page but I am leaving that up to my nephew to be the one in charge because he is the oldest and he is the boss. But I told him I am here to help

Thanks for letting me know about the private message thing. This was an issue where I had to laugh and just say how important is this? And it got a very low grade LOL, so the delete button will be the thing to do and if it is really really ugly and attacking, I can refer it to you or Freetime

How are your mom and dad doing? I hope everything is OK.



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  aww Mama... I have just had a short pm discussion with Iam- and I am following her advice.

       Am I the person you are referring to- with your concerns?

      If so- i might leave any other person contacting you- wondering if it is them.

      I would prefer to have a clean slate.

      If it is another group member, why not deal with it directly- and clear the air? 

      DavidG.



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No. David. Someone I dont know that well. IF it were you. I would sort it out with you. As to the other. No chance to sort out. Let go. Let God

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  aww Thanks Mama... smile ...



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(((((((David))))))))))).

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MIP family - one element of my advice that I maybe wasn't clear on was I am always hopeful that if members have issues with another - a post, a remark, etc. that they work it out via Private Messaging. Sorry David that I wasn't clear - and I am glad that it wasn't an issue with you!

Great solution there Rose....sometimes it is just better to let another be who they need to be and just let it go. (((Hugs))) to all!



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Oops - sorry Rose - I missed your post above David's. My parents are doing really well as far as the Virus goes. I can tell that it's affected my dad's mind - he's repeating more than ever and he's pausing to remember more than before....it is my prayer that it's temporary - I call every day to entertain them, check on them and I know it breaks up their days. They are so, so used to their routine and it's been shattered. My mother, with her dementia is not handling the boredom well and has been drinking way, way more. Today, she turns 86, and was sad they couldn't go any place. I keep reminding her it's every where, not just there, because she thinks if she comes back here, she'll be able to hang with her sisters, and go out, and ... She's just more confused than ever but they are really, really doing well. She is swimming 3x a week so that's a good thing!! (((Hugs)))

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 



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aww ... sometimes our best changes come through making honest mistakes! biggrin ...

    I was reluctant to p.m. just in case i added insult to injury! This was a tiny glitch... in my world... which could have bin an earthquake or a volcano! biggrin

Ohana, in Hawaiian, whanau over here- is extended family- or family of choice, as well...

thanks for this bond... which is healthy... strengthening... smile smile smile ...



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((((((((((((((((((IAH))))))))))))))))))))))) Oh that is so sad, I am sorry dad's thinking got affected by Covid..Lord!! that is scary and poor mom wants to hang out and myh prayers go out that she can curb the drinking as it has to be bad for dementia............bless their hearts and they are so lucky to have you as their daughter...

Speaking of drinking more, my brother is MIA again, on a binge, been trying to find him to tell hm Patsy has gone to heaven and his VM is full..clear sign he is on a drunk....I cannot for the life of me figure out HOW hes staying able to work and think and eat, etc, with the heavy alcohol load he puts on his body....Its scary and very sad to see your loved ones pouring poison down their throats...I have to REEELY work program because i just adore little brother and hes getting worse..I can see it big time.....

.and yea, I LOVED what you said about "Great solution there Rose....sometimes it is just better to let another be who they need to be and just let it go. (((Hugs))) to all!

I used to go back n forth, back n forth with people and now I just say "OK...is this REALLY worth it??? like HOW important IS this/them/issue????" and yep...let a prayer of peace and goodwill rise and let it go

(((((((((((((David))))))))))))) Thank you for CARING enough to think it was maybe you....I really respected that you went to IAH who is so very fair to see what you needed to do if it was you and you posted it to me....THAT showed that you cared and I was touched by your gesture....nawww I would just "come up side of your head" LOL in a PM and we would sort it out...

On a lighter note, I am re-connecting with niece and Nephew (Patsy's kids) and I said I am HERE to them if they need comfort, advice/ESH , love, input, etc., but I am not going to insert myself so much as to step on any boundaries?? even tho they are her children, they have a right to their "down time" I think Patsy is smiling up in heaven,

by the way she was an "Al-anon'r" because Bibby was alcoholic and died from it...Lord that was painful for all of us because he was so beloved by us all..Patsy divorced him as she could not take the Dr. Jekyl Mr Hyde behavior when he was sober vs drinking...He never beat her, but he was just into trouble and very bad mouthing her...so she left, but they stayed FRIENDS...and i stayed friends with him, till the end when he was unable to really communicate, the alcohol just ate up his brain, it was sad to see such a former wonderful life be taken by the disease

IAH, I am with ya on the laying low, staying in your lane on this ...I go to the grocery, odd hours, so less people, pharmacie is inside grocery....I go to gym and they allow 4 people to the pool and we have our "lanes" where there is a divider and you stay within the lane, NO contact with other swimmers and I figure that smelly chlorine will kill anything, but yea, be safe..and I am very glad you are practicing safety...so many people are not and it is scary, I pray for all of us

thank you IAH for your awesome service and thank you too, David for caring enough to ASK......

Let us all be safe and keep coming back...........((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))) to all....SAFE hugs at that

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DavidG wrote:

 

aww ... sometimes our best changes come through making honest mistakes! biggrin ...

   


 Well said, David..Sometimes its hard to "SEE"  if a convo is "going south" because I cannot "SEE"  in cyberspace...and yea, I am a work in progress, but I do try and learn, like  "OK , HP, what is the message I need to get and apply to my program for future reference??"  



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