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Post Info TOPIC: Sometimes, NOTHING but an old fashioned hug will do it


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Sometimes, NOTHING but an old fashioned hug will do it


Went to gym to literally drown my sorrows in the pool...swam hard for about 45 minutes and as I was leaving, my friends , the managers, Trina and Trey both yelled  "how are ya Rosie???"  I walked over to them and said "horrible...the last of my sisters passed away"   and we talked and Trina just grabbed me in her arms and told me to call her if I need anything and she just held me,  they Trey came out of HIS office and grabbed onto me and just HELD ME....I cried and told them "thank you both for caring" and they , I could tell, really felt for me....it was NICE to feel a caring human being HUG ME!!!  something I took for granted, like the rest of us till covid came along and forced us to all social distance

but Trey and Trina didn't care about Covid or anything but to comfort a member and friend of theirs who was hurting

I am grieving, remembering the wonderness of her..How she and "Bibby" my brother in law, before they were married,  Patsy had graduated from HS and was going to college to study nutrition and here I am this awkward  (but in Patsy's eyes, adorable blonde middle schooler)  kid who was way too young to date, mom and dad would take me places to make up for that "age stage where NO..you can't date, but if you want to bring a boy HERE to hang out, thats ok"   they were cool, but Patsy and "Bibby" (Bob) took it a step further...THEY took me on their dates with them...I went to football games (never liked the sport, but I NEVER, to this day, told her)  and they took me to movies and the greatest take out places, bowling, you name it, I had a blast!!!  younger sister Gini did the same thing..Hell, I was never home, but when I did show up, the girls were living elsewhere, but they would take me home and I would have my bath, get in my PJ's and mom and dad would tuck me in (God I never wanted to leave their house)  and mom would have some great oatmeal and raisin cookies and milk for me and i would dazzle them with my  "date with Patsy/Bob  or Gini/Jimmy"  stories..both girls were with these guys since school and eventually married them...Mom and Dad loved my "date stories" 

now my OTHER sister, Jane, though she loved me too, never took me on her dates,  but she was kinda cool in her own way...

now HOW many sisters do you think take their baby sisters out on their dates???  I had TWO out of THREE....pretty good average.....Mom and Dad Godfrey didn't care if I got in real late as long as it was not a school night...They knew that the girls would take good care of me and they DID

Gini passed in Feb 2017,  then Jane in Jul 2017, yea,  two in one year, then Patsy ...Debbie (her daughter) could NOT find her phone, so she hacked into Patsy's facebook page, found out the spelling of my name, etc, (she new me at old name, not legal name change)  THEN she somehow found me and told me this morning that Patsy had died....

I feel squashed....Lesson???   LOVE your loved ones every day, make SOME gesture that you love them and are thinking of them because "poof" tomorrow they could be gone...Patsy had cancer adn hid it for a long time..she never told me as she did not want to put worry and stress on me with this covid shit...but then it got real bad and Debbie could not miss knowing something was wrong with her mom, so she moved to FLA to be with her and saw her to the end

I wish I had known WHILE she was alive, so I could tell her what she meant to me, but I think she knows how much I loved and looked up to her

Love whom you got while you got them...Tomorrow they could be gone!!!!



-- Edited by mamalioness on Tuesday 13th of October 2020 08:52:20 PM

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You have a great heart Rosie...they aren't gone...just waiting to join.  Hug them for me cause I feel they are blessed with who is back here still and still loving.  ((((Hugs)))) wink



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Jerry you are so sweet and kind. And in my dreams I will hug them for you. I know they are looking After me in their happy life. And I know I will see them one day soon. In the meantime just pay forward all the gifts that they gave to me. I learned so much from them the biggest thing being love. I had a terrible night sleep last night so I am going to try and take a nap and then just take it easy today. Bob is going to do, he is the oldest son and oldest child of Patsy, he is going to do the obituary and Memorial on her page and I am going to send him a message on messenger offering to help if he wants me too. But he is the oldest and he is In charge. He looks so much like his dad. Its so funny. I loved his dad. I am really encouraged that the kids want a closer relationship with me

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Those memories sound wonderful, Rose!
I hope that family lived a blessed life for taking you in!

Their physical bodies are gone (that which we humans can easily identify with), but the energy is still with us! They will be there to embrace you when the time comes... show them you will honor their love even after their passing! Keep taking care of yourself, Rose.

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((((((((((((((Jerry))))))))))))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((((((((((PnP))))))))))))))))))))))) I am re-connecting with her kids and I am chatting back and forth with the eldist...he is very kind and sweet......to honor Patsy AND Gini, I can be a support system with their kids...I am the only Auntie Figure they got now...Told Bob that and that I was HERE if they need to talk, comfort, etc., if he needs help with the memorial on her page, I would help, but HES in charge as the oldest of it.....I just let him know that I am HERE...and not only was I his mom's baby sister, but his dad was the AWESOMENESS big bro I ever had and I loved him dearly...I knew him and his family since I was a tiny little thing....His uncle Tom babysat for me and lived with me for a short time in 2005......so i shared those memories with Bob and he was happy to hear my stories of the old days......so yea, i am reconnecting with the nieces and nephews and maybe that is my role now...to be the loving, supportive auntie for them......I don't push myself on anyone but I did let them know I was here and I gave them my number in the event they need me faster than facebook.....

Still not real to me that she is gone, but as I come to terms /acceptance of it, I am chatting back and forth with son and daughter....I slept horrid last night so I got my stuff duckie and held him and finally "dropped of" at about 5am....taking it REAL easy today

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