The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Today's page reminds us that AlAnon is not a single use service but of great value if used throughout our life. We change, life changes, but we will never run out of character defects or need for spiritual reassessment.
The author remembered this after having slipped into an unhappy state of thinking that others were to blame for unpleasant feelings and loss of Serenity. Using program tools, the true source of the pain was revealed: not others, but the author's own pride and arrogance.
Reminder: No matter how much time passed while in or around the program, there are always more ways to learn and grow spiritually. My life will get better if I look for ways to improve my life. --------------------- AlAnon was the lifeline that helped me climb out of a pit of despair, resentment and sadness I had lowered myself into as I tried to control alcohol use in my qualifier.
As incredibly powerful as that change in perspective was for me, I have experienced much deeper and more powerful changes within myself since. As I change, as my life changes, the meaning of what I read and hear in AlAnon changes, along with new perspectives it opens for me...the deeper layers of the onion I am able to reach.
My changes are not always noticeable at the time, but I am grateful for the strength and guidance from my higher power that has enabled me to try to apply the program a little each day. Steps forward, some steps back, but there are always areas to work on and reasons to be grateful for the new blessings and Serenity I receive. So grateful for the continued wisdom, guidance and blessing of the program
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Paul, thank you for your service and your honest, important share. If the day comes that I think Im fine and dont need help I will surely be in big trouble. Because life, everyone and everything, is always changing, there are new challenges (and the old ones) that constantly need attention. Im dealing with Covid, a 15 yr old beloved dog, my A, broken appliances, a trip to the optometrist, etc. Nothing is standing still so I cant either. ODAT.
Thank you Paul for your service ans ESH. I liked the reminder that no matter how much time in program has passed, there are always more ways to learn and grow spiritually. How true!
I also like your take on it Lyne - "Nothing is standing still so I can't either. ODAT."
If you look in nature, nothing is standing still, not even the mighty mountain. Time erodes it's size, earthquakes may even move it's position on the planet! LIFE is ever-changing... there is no reason for me to be inert. Growth is Good!
Hope you all have a peaceful Tuesday! &
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thank you Paul for your service and the daily. Thank you to all for your ESH & shares. I can be a slow learner, a stubborn person and persnickety so it's taken me a long, long time to realize and appreciate I am better equipped to handle life on life's terms when I practice this program every day. I am far from perfect, and no longer view that as a desired goal. Instead, I truly just want to be as happy, joyous, free and of service as I can be. When I am able to trust this program, my HP and the ESH shared so freely with me, I do decent, one day at a time.
Anytime I am feeling restless, irritable or discontent, the fastest remedy that I know of is to turn right back to this program, often revisiting each step, in order with the hopes of finding what's changed. I can't tell you how many times I have unintentionally, accidentally forgotten that I AM POWERLESS!! I am not sure what is inside of me that can easily forget this, but many, many times, my will and my EGO are battling for front/center stage.
What a great reminder that this (recovery) is a journey, not a destination. We are promised continuous improvement, serenity, joy, peace if we just stay willing, open and humble. I believe that's a great return on investment!!
Happy Tuesday all....started the day golfing, then went straight to blood donation followed by a quick lunch at home before heading to my volunteer gig. I stay here until dark and am looking forward to my bed, blanket and pillow - it's been a long, long day and I feel zapped. Love and light to all - glad you're a part of my journey. (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
My idea of spiritual program in the past was to give nyself away. I saw ithers pain and problems. I was desperare for attention
Now I have to give the good attention to myself. These are wxhaustimg times
I.have tp.focus on one or two goals
I.am certainly aware of other oeople's pain. In dact I can have more compassion for them when I am not icer involved with them
Nevertheless I have plenty on my plate at the moment. I.have made a significant boundaru not to add.more to my plate.
For me that is radical self love
For me that is raducal chnge.
Maresud