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I.am so glad that you are willing to be engaged with your family members in an effort to make changes in your family dynamics. What a formidable task.
When I was a teenager, social services were briefly involved with my extremely dusfunctional abusive family. My mother, with all her limitations, was a supremely manipulative player who was very very skilled at playing the role of the victim. She had them snowed in a thoroughly effective manner from day one. The whole experience left me completely abandoned on yet another level and patently recklessly suicidal.
The repercussions for that #intervention# were lifelong for me. That lack of trust meant it was difficult for me to engage in therapy or even seek help for decades. Of course that issue then set me uo to a life long pattern of hurtlimg at full force into absolutely disastorous relationshios
There is no.doubt that you are aware of the implications and consequences for children raised in difficult circumstances.
Nevertheless you could have chosen to step aside abd say that you have enough on your plate with your own issues
The fact that you able to step up to the table, aware of all the real limitations within social services, as well as the complex intermeshed problems of the parents is more than admirable. Your courage, tenacity and gracious attitide towards this family dilemma is really admirable.
Only someone who had navigated the terrible experience of chronic childhood abuse and neglect could embrace those concepts so thoroughly Your attitude, resolve and kind regards to all those involved is incredible and inspiring to people like me who are struggling through hard times right now.
Maresie
Hey David, you are stepping up to a very difficult situation, with compassion. For whatever you do about this situation going forward is your decision, but bravo to you for trying.
However much chaos the other persons bring to this situation you do not have to react
Of course chaos breeds chaos. Being arou nd mentality is exhausting. Nvertheless the great reward of detachment and of course recovery is thaf you no longet get caught up in the undertow.
Maresie