The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It is cunning and baffling. I have heard the word "dysfunctional" bandied about.
I think that that is far too soft a word. Damaging, dangerous, even life threatening, describes it better.
I have been involved with my nephew G. His two kids have been taken into care. His partner is off to a treatment centre.
Some sign of hope. A whole lot of family history here.
I was invited into a family group conference. I do need to protect my own back.
I understand the nature of the disease well. Years of experience. One time I wrote a local history of the community I grew up in. I was able to study and observe a lot of other families through four or five generations.
I think this confirmed what I already knew.
But- having said that- I still live one day at a time. I live with the effects of the disease much easier now.
ah kin apply step 11 to that idea- that insight. Disease to ease. Yes...
I recall a reading or two, where folks say they are grateful for this disease we all live with or have lived with. I'm not quite up to feeling grateful that I've had two spouses with multiple addictions, alcohol being one of them. I am grateful for alanon, and life skills that alanon continues to teach me, but my God, couldn't there have been an easier way???
I don't think I will ever consider myself "grateful" for being in the position I am in now. It wouldn't be an issue if not for living alongside addiction. And yes Lyne, I am also grateful for the skills I've learned, but always wonder why? Couldn't my HP teach me these things in a kinder, gentler, way? So I "get" you!
David, prayers for your family. And prayers for you too - I was kind of sad reading that you have to "protect your back" with your own family.
-- Edited by PosiesandPuppies on Thursday 3rd of September 2020 09:47:38 AM
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