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iris52


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I was reading some old posts and decided to google my nickname. I was surprised at what came up. I chose the nick because irises are one of my favorite flowers and 52 is the year I was born.The things that came up for iris 52 are  things I am not sure I want people to think I am connected to. Actually I am not really sure what they are but I was afraid to click on them and then start getting pop ups from those websites, you know? I also looked  up the nickname I used back in 2006 and found that I could read my old posts.

How do you feel about this?

 

 



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aww I am okay back there with my own posts. I don't go back as far as you Iris.

    But ah suppose- with actual age- ah do go back one more year. biggrin ...



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Hello iris 52. My childhood house had irises and I love them so much! Good nick name.

Ive never thought of reading my old posts. I guess it would be like reading a diary from days past. I know I was in total pain and devastation and it took several years for me to see how much health I was gaining from program. I can remember how miserable and lost I was. I prefer to see how I am today. Just thinking out loud. :)

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Well, the subject of this post is the fact that I could GOOGLE my nickname and various websites with that name came up. Also, I GOOGLED my previous nickname and some of my old posts came up. This was GOOGLE, not on this forum. I don't think anyone understood the point I was making. I was asking if you are comfortable with the fact that your posts will live in infamy on the world wide web.

I know this forum is on the WWW, but I just thought that was kinda creepy. Alot of things are creepy these days,maybe that's just me.I am not on social media and I don't plaster my political beliefs,or everything I love  or believe in on my car or in my yard. I am a very private person.I am going to change my nickname and think about this.

Maybe this is not alanon but then again I am starting step 4 so maybe this is something about myself I need to look at.

Not Iris for long.

 

 

 



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Hmmm Yes Iris- what you say does cast a different complexion on the situation.

 We had a member, and friend here 10 days ago- who wanted to reconnect with  conversations- here-

with her sponsor. So that is one side of the story.

Any one and everyone can walk into the rooms- the f2f rooms that is. But they don't- not at least in my experience.

Like using that old cliche- they come in and find bread, and not paint.

And yet I have to tread carefully on this topic. Coming from a rural district. There were really no secrets.

But we kept our local- and family secrets- from outsiders- or at least some of us did.

Hmmm... not sure if I am casting any light here... ??? Just my own ESH... 



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Iris - I too am very private. I am extremely cautious online as well. I have no issues with my posts here available via google only because I have been cautious about my identity here and online in general. I do understand what you're saying and I believe there is nothing wrong with protecting your anonymity and self.

I was raised in a smaller town and everybody did know everyone's business. That was then and times have changed. You have every right to do what you feel necessary to keep you safe online and to protect your family, self, etc. So, I do hear you and you are not alone...



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Hi Iris - same here. I'm uneasy with it all being out there, so I usually am very vague about particulars, if they come up. No names really even related to the people involved. I also don't mention certain hobbies, sports or other activities as it'd be very easy for anybody involved to figure out who I might be talking about, and who I am in real life, based on those. I was like that when I first got here (to this website), though, although that was primarily out of sheer fear of angering my qualifier at the time!

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