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We had a really good day today. I have been doing a lot of reading. Like A LOT of reading. I reread the things you all posted for me and I like the steps board. And I've started How Al Anon Works. I was able to just breathe through my anxiety and do a few short reads throughout the day and have a good day today. I was able to just do some porch sitting with him and talk. Not about anything important but just visit with him. And laugh with him. I was able to not nag him about if he was going to the meeting tonight or not. I was able to calmly say goodbye when he went to his very first AA meeting tonight. I didn't bombard him with questions when he came back with an armful of papers and a book someone sent home with him. I was able to just worry about myself today. It was a good day.
YaY for a good day! I love to hear/see program in action. Love to hear that you were able to just site on the porch and talk (and laugh). I see great success, and you've done a great job. What I learned in recovery is really, all that matters is this day, today. There's even a hand-out called just for today. My mind/heart/soul are far more peaceful and zen when I can stay in and appreciate this very moment, the present, just one day at a time.
Sending you and your husband tons of positive energy and prayers. I am very glad to hear that he did make it to the meeting! Keep doing what you did today and you'll continue to feel as you feel tonight. Love and light to you OhLuvya! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Detaching sometimes has immediate results. The ex qualifier regularly let the electricity be turned off. I would always step in and pay it. The last time I did not I just left it off. Needless to say he found the money to pay it. That kind of success really helps. It took a lot of restraint for me to do that
I work pretty hard on having good days
I have a lot of intense frustration about COVID issues. I do not find it any easier over time. Getting anything done is an uphill struggle even getting the mail seens to be like a continuous struggle.
Therefore I have to neutralize that by having good days. I have made a huge effort to declutter. Today I made lot of headway on my papers.
I am working really hard on reducing my belongings. That is something I have control over.
I am glad you have found a home here. This is a great place to land.
Maresie
"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
These are the posts which I learned could make my heart smile; really! They soften and level out the tragedy I use to live through. I could not feel the peace of mind and serenity from within the program until I trusted in and was able to acquire and often practice surrender..."Free at last, Free at last....Thank God!! I'm free at last". (((Hugs)))
