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I always prided myself on being resilient. In fact I was from s background of absolute chaos. Therefore chaos does not phase me. Anything remotely normal does because it is alien for me
Under pressure I do not make good decisions. Under pressure I get sick which is exactly what happened to me recently. I am still recovering.
I guess I have to take that notion off ny skill base. I also, of course, have to learn to be resilient. I have an idea that means taking things slowly i am in phase 3 of my moving. That is going well. Taking things slowly means I have more patience to live life on life's terms. I cannot say I have been able to.do that before. I was aways in a constant state of frustration and tension. That did not do much for my blood pressure.
Maresie
Good to hear that your moving is continuing to move forward. Also, you are recognizing that you need "more" right now. Brava!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
I too am excited that you're move is progressing Maresie! It's so funny that your title is resilience - I had the TV on today, and one of the talk shows had a specialist that was talking about resilience. She suggested that many believe one is either born with it or not and she disagrees and suggests it can be learned at any age/stage. I didn't learn close enough to share beyond that but it did give me cause to pause and consider the word, what it means to me and whether I am/am not!
My conclusion is all of us 'Miracles in Progress' have more resilience than we probably even know we have! It takes a certain amount of grit and strength to survive living with this disease, choose recovery and live differently, each day, one day at a time! Keep taking good care of you and keep us posted on your progress! I'm praying for your healing, your move and your soon-to-be peaceful home! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Boy! I am the opposite. My background was absolute chaos and to this day I do not handle chaos very well. I dont cope with stress very well. I really want peace and serenity and simple and all of that. The chaos that my former roommate seem to thrive on just wore me out to the point where I had to evict her. I was not gonna live like that. I think the pressure was dragging me down. And yeah To be resilient is a good thing and I think I am better at it since program, but I know I have a ways to go yet. My mantras of late are to keep it simple and easy does it and yes! Taking things more slowly. Life is going to be life and its best I go with a non-resistant attitude and step three when I cannot deal with it
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Actually I am really not that resilient. I am also not that orgamized
I wish I were more resilient
I.an enjoyimg living in a more clean organized soace at the moment
However my problems with moving would have been heloed if I had done a radical declutter before I moved. Today I get rid of a large trunk.I have been haulimg around for over 10 years. This trunk is really large. I live in a very smalk space
Maresie
I had another set back. A check I was expecting is not going to arrive for at least another month. That means I have to go back to work earlier. I have had a lot of expense over moving. Renting a storage unit, paying movers. Some of my things dont work which may have happened anyway. Then I had to stock up the fridge again. It has been one huge hardship. But now this check I am exoecting is held uo because of the civil unrest.
One long hardship. This year has been one long uphill struggle. I have to go back to work because I have to have a certain amount of cash flow
One hardship after another.
I did not expect this year to be so hard
This series of events takes a lot of faith to endure. Resilience is not even close to it
I am sorry to hear of the setback, ((((((Maresie)))))).
I am learning to tell myself that the path I am on is the path HP wants me to walk... even in more difficult times. What lesson am I being taught? It is what it is. Stuff like that. It helps keep me from wallowing in the "Why me's?" Because I can get stuck in that type of thought pattern pretty easily.
So, perhaps... by going back to work early, your HP is putting you "in line" for something wonderful. Who knows?
Just keep up your self-care!
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
((((((Maresie))))))))). Bless your dear heart! I dont know what to say except to tell you that I am saddened by all the things that are happening to you and its hard to understand why it seems that one boulder after another comes at you but it does go away in time. It does pass in time if I just keep turning things over and turning things over and turning things over again, it does eventually pass. Are used to think I would have a rose garden because I was in the program but that is not true. We are not promised for life to be all good or all Bad for that matter but when it seems that one thing after another comes at you and it is not wanted, its hard to stay positive and its hard to not just say to hell with it and just lie down and hide under the covers. I have been where you are at many times and it sucks but I have come through it I have survived and I know you will too. Sending you lots of support and prayer that this too shall pass and pass quickly for you
There are multiple stressors involved. The new regulatioms for returning to work are complicated. There is the constant stress of dealing with these problems. In addition because of the virus issues it is oractically impossible to get anyone on the phone. Every issue has a new hurdle in it. Those hurdles do not dimish. On top of that there has been civil unrest all week. The demonstrators shut the center of town. All these businesses downtown are boarded uo. There was tremendous damage to the buildings. Moreover the State building is shut diwn. The State Building is where the check is. Therefore since the demonstrators carry on evsey dsy there is no knowing when I will get the check. At this rate it may be months.
This is all very wearing. I am at the point where I.am just longing to move somewhere elss where demonstrators do not have the right to shut down essential business. All these issues on top of one another leave little room for relaxing
As far as cash flow goes I have to ensure thst some money is comimg in monthly. I cannot just hope on it. I have to make thsr hapoen
Maresie
((((((((((((((((((((Maresie))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) sending Prayers!!!! Dunno what city you are in, here in Dallas its curfew and sorta sketchy, but so far, not so bad..What really angers me is that this poor guy's family is pleading for PEACEFUL protests, but you got these bad people using THIS tragedy for their own toxic agendas (looting, destroying property) I'm so sorry this is impacting you ...Praying you get relief soon
I appreciate the good sentiments
However it is not getting better.
The civil unrest on top of the Covid 19 crisis puts it all over the top.
Combine that with moving, being sick and other stressors what do you have: totally unmanagable
Totally unmanageable does not #pass# you have to dig yourself out of it
The irony is no qualifier caused this. I dug myself out of the hole created by the qualifier. This is a whole different scenario.
I just have to acceot it is totally unmanageable.
Completely off the hook.
Maresie
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