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Post Info TOPIC: SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY


~*Service Worker*~

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SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY


I went to work, and b4 I even started this job, I told the boss, i only work mornings...today, I think he wanted me to stay all day and I reminded him that mornings , concentrating at this level is too tiring and I need to have my bbreak and "I'll see you next week..I will get you up to date"  and I left after 4-1/2 hours work

THEN My former boss at my big job that closed down, wants me to to their taxes..he has always preferred me to that high priced CPA that his dad used an cost the company LOADS...I told him to be sure EVERY officer is on the same page...this is my price...ALL of you have to agree....well, today, I called the dad and I informed him that son #2 wants me to do their corp. tax return and he mentioned the CPA and I said I would be working solo..that is why I am giving them such a good deal...I told him my terms,  "get with your other son....I want ALL of you to be in agreement that I am doing the taxes because you all will be paying me 1/3 of the bill and I want it all agreed upon"

he said he would call me tomorrow....its OK if i get the project, its OK if I do not....I let it go...detached....

when I got home , I got on my bike and rode around the neighborhood having some fun in the sun, it was a beautiful day and I needed to wind down and that is what I did....Roommate wanted me to take her to the store as she is "almost out of bread"  and I told her that i "understand your car is still in the shop, but I will go to the store, when I am #1, rested up/recovered from a very intense work day and #2, not to be difficult, but its not convenient for me to run you to the store when I am tired, and MAYBE I'll go on Thursday as Wednesday, I need to do my wash and tidy up my room and restroom"...

I was nice about it, but basically said that my taking her to the store was a FAVOR,  not an obligation.../she has her mom, her mom can run her if it is that important....

When people "expect" me to do a favor, its time to have a "sit down" chat and we did...She apologized and I said "no worries" and let it go...

I did my work out, had my power shake and NOW its time to relax with a good movie.....

so how did you all do today???? 



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~*Service Worker*~

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I like the way you own your power ((Rose))) you're worth :)

To Thine Own Self Be True - I really enjoyed reading how you put that statement into action with both the boss of your "BIG" job and your new roommate. It was a great display of professional and personal boundaries. You neither lapsed into people pleasing, putting others before yourself nor let any fears of financial insecurity have you throw yourself under the bus. I like the way you consistently respect yourself and do it politely with others rather than treating them like suspects. You're good with yourself and it shows.

Today is Wednesday but one of the good things I did for myself yesterday was three miles or more of walking outdoors. It loosened some tight muscles.

Thanks for sharing. Hope today is a good one for you!  TT



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(((((((((((((TT))))))))))))))))) and so are you (worth it) 3 miles of "walkies" is GREAT....and oh yea, moving about, breathing in the air, I can bet it made you feel good....Today we are looking at some stormy weather, so I am doing my wash, tidying my room and i bathed the doggies, and then??? Resting up in front of the TV to watch some good movies or docus.....its that kind of day...80% chance of storms....good day to rest and nap...workout later today...... I hope you have a great day........HAPPY hump day, LOL

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I wish I could work part time I.an grateful for s job at all I try to make movement a big part of my day Fatigue is a big issue for me So is enmeshment I have to.work real hard on boundaries daily One week.and I.get to.move back to my apartment. It is going to take me a while to organize iit all. One day at s time Limits are huge for me I.switched shifts at work to be better able to get rest Pacing is everything Maresie

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hey Maresie, one more week and you get your own flat???? yaaaaaaay!!! that right there is such a blessing, has to be......and yea sometimes I have to do life in "chunks"....take care!!!!!

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Well I move back to.a rennivared flat. But it will take me a while to settle back. My stuff is everywhere. I dont want to over extend myself I am also very isolated so I am trying to.increase my reaching out Isolation is hard If I had one person to helo me with moving that would helo a lot. But I do not I am all.alone so.I have to pace myself Maresie

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