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cancer in both lungs, fluid building in the right lung and the cancer is "feeding off" it...
Docs said it was incurable but they can "hold it off" with chemotherapy...We don't know , yet, when treatments will start, she has meet with oncologist on Monday to set up a treatment program
I didn't have very high expectations and tho I was very upbeat and positive/encouraging to HER, I was REAL low on my expectations of a good outcome
Back when they said stage 4, "oh but its all in one place" then they test her again and "oh yea, there is a smaller spot of it in the other lung" and THEN they drain 1.5 litres of water out of the bigger spot on right lung...
I feel like I am being dishonest, trying to be upbeat and positive and "oh yea, technology and medicine these days can do lots of stuff" BUt no way am I going to make her feel any more frightened then she already is.....
I don't know what her HP has in mind for her, but I pray all the time that no mater what happens, PLEASE don't let her suffer...I feel like another Betty is coming....It sounded encouraging for her in the beginning and she was gone in a less then 60 days.....
I just mostly listen and keep topic on stuff I know she likes to talk about, but always willing to listen when she needs to talk about the cancer....Hubs is in denial, poor David, he doesn't even believe its cancer...I feel as sad for him as I do Kerry...She says he won't really talk about it with her, so i am her "ear'" when she wants to talk and I try to keep it positive and for sure loving and caring
I tell her I love her and she loves my dogs, so we do audio and video with her talking with the dogs and the little pit bull LOVES to "chat" with "aunt Kerry" over the phone....
I do stuff like that to keep her spirits up...I'm in TX she is in NH...not much else I can do...there are times she is coughing worse then others and I just pray that the chemo can give her some, literally, breathing room
I hope all of you are safe and OK, nobody afflicted with virus...I hear mixed messages, have we "peaked" or not, and the stores are really weird where they herd you in one door like cattle, out another door, like cattle and when building occupancy numbers reach a certain number, you are queued up outside...my roommate went out on Saturday to FOUR stores and we musta hit them just right because we were in and out, no waiting , no queuing up...I am glad Kerry has folks , hubs and brother to get her supplies for her..She does not need to be exposing herself......
YOU all be SAFE!!! TAKE care and HAPPY EASTER!!!!
Roommate and I had baked chicken with sweet potatoes and garlic toast....I cooked, she washed dishes....Its ok, having a roommate, I had to set some boundaries, but nothing "deal breaking" I had her sign a rental contract with me...but so far, I think it is more good then bad...Not crazy about roommating, but wtih finances the way they are, I had to do it....
(((Rose))) I'm sorry to hear this sad news about your friend. Prayers for her and all who love her. She sounds like a wonderful friend. It made me smile to think of the video chatting with your dogs. You are making a positive difference in her life and in support of her as she goes through this. I hope she does well.
Best of luck with your new roommate and work. Stay well, keep sharing. TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
Prayers continue....one of my HS friends lost her sister yesterday morning to Lung Cancer. It unfolded just like my cousin and Betty - fast and quickly. I hold on to a quick release from pain and suffering and trust that my HP and their HP knows better than I.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
TT
Thank you for stopping by and your well wishes. Yeah it is literally one day at a time with her and there are times where life gets complicated and I either call late or I cant call at all because it is her bedtime but I try my best to get a call in and do stuff that is fun for her. She is a wonderful person
And she just loves to talk with the dogs. Its really funny. Anything that makes her laugh and feel good we are going to do. Yeah I am praying that this roommate situation works out because it takes a big load off my shoulders regarding the financial part of my life Ive got one job remaining that is open due to the coronavirus. I know the others will come back to me when it is safe but in the meantime I am grateful that my needs are met. I do hope that you are doing well and that You are safe in this crazy time. You go to the stores and it looks like a war zone with all the controlling of our comings and goings in the stores but I am grateful that supplies are better and that I am not lacking for anything that I need
David does all the shopping for Kerry and also her brother steps up and helps so I am grateful they are keeping her safe and inside. I know its hard on her so I try to do the video thing with the dogs and I know that helps.
((((Rose)))) and prayers for your friend.
She has a long, difficult road... it is a blessing that you will be there to shoulder some of her fears.
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Iamhere, PnP and Temple..........thank you all for stopping by......
Iamhere, yea, I just keep surrendering her to HP, as you say HP knows best....sorry about your HS girlfriend's sis and your cousin...and yea, IF it is bad outcome, may it be fast and minimal pain....
PnP thanks, and yea, no matter how long the road, its gonna be hard...poor thing coughs and coughs, and i hate to say "what did you say????" so I just listen the best I can and tell her I am here and love her
Temple, the doggies love to "chat" with her, it is so funny, to watch them respond to her when she talks to them....I think roommate will be ok...we are both in lockdown together, getting to know each other and adjust...seems it will be OK
yea, its a ODAT deal for sure....She will have "OK" days and some bad ones , I'm gonna savor the good ones.....Her oncology appt. is on Friday...We should know some more then....
