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I am a grateful member of Al-Anon and have cut down on my social life because of the virus. I don't know, whether I am vulnerable to it, but I meet so many people that I can easily be a multiplier. So, I have cut down on meetings and want to stay in touch with the programme.
I joined Al-Anon almost 8 years ago - I cannot believe it! My life has changed a lot and more change is about to come. I am in a new relationship, not alcoholic. I find it harder to let someone into my life than before with the alcoholic, but I am working on it and am mindful of my thoughts and tendencies to push people away. Mostly, I am fine, but I need to programme! I am now 20 weeks pregnant, a surprise pregnancy, and present from my Higher Power. I would never have planned it like that. The Dad is super supportive. We are soon moving together into a house, which means, I will have a normal life, but change is still difficult. I miss some of the mundane parts of single life, although, at the time, they were nothing amazing or so. Ah, and I got a new job in January, a job I have enjoyed a lot. So, in sum, I am going through a lot of change and am trying to take it a day at a time. I have got my head around the job and pregnancy, the new house is the next big, scary step.
Smukke - hey, hey - good to see you! I too am reducing my outings and social interactions. I am not a high-risk person, but many I love are. I am hopeful to be of more service by choosing to isolate socially as suggested - hoping to stop the spread.
It sounds like your got some awesome things happening in your life! Congrats. on all - the new job, the baby on the way, new home, etc. Isn't it funny that even when change is good, we have a bit of fear just below the surface? I too choose to lean into my recovery, a little bit each day so I am better tooled for life changes, events, etc.
Keep coming back - this is an awesome place to get some ESH - you're not alone! I am grateful for where I am today and would not be 'here' without Al-Anon!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Glad you're here. If my local groups close, I know I'll be dropping by here and another online board more frequently.
Something else I want to do, as well, is make sure I stay in touch with the members of my home group and reach out to them more frequently. When I start getting fearful, I shrink in on myself, and that's precisely the time I need to get out of my head and be of service to others, even if it can only be done over the phone, text, or skype, etc.
I am getting a little anxious in regards to this virus but I dont know if it was the excuse I need to not attend so many meetings as my sponsor suggested. I admit I can work a little harder on my recovery but I am also dealing with depression. I am happy to hear your story after 8 years in the program and that you are starting a family. Which is a dream I have since gave up on as I see the reality of the extent of my sickness. Your story gives me hope.