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Trying to turn it over


So where I live with my A is in a virus hot spot.  Half the week I live near my son in a more remote location.  Its a no brainer to live temporarily in the remote location could possibly keep my virus-free.  My A wont come with me because she and the kids are at odds with each other, going on 4 years.  I am in terrible conflict today about what to do and Im am trying to turn this over to HP.  Its not definite that we will get sick here in our primary location but the odds are certainly greater.  And since she is sober and has made some progress, I actually do not want to abandon her.  I will use my tools today and try to take ODAT.  Sometimes its hard to determine the next right thing.  Lyne



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This post reflects program perfection for me, HOW you are responding to this or any problem...

That turn turn turning away from unmanageability, fear, and turbulent mind...

 to quiet time in communion with the Higher Power... the feeling HP's presence again, the swimming, floating, swirling... until joy and calm return...

THAT is success!

Anchored in thoughts of HP, I am at that moment in God's will and usually results in me doing "the next right thing."

terrific post!





-- Edited by 2HP on Sunday 15th of March 2020 07:39:13 PM

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(((Lyne))) - these are trying times simply because there is more unknown than known. I too loved that you are leaning into your recovery and your HP to help you determine the 'next right thing'. I agree - it's not always immediately intuitive! That pausing and praying can bring it to the surface - trust your HP and program to lead you.

I am grateful to have a group of friends that are like-minded. We're all practicing the same strategies to hopefully do our part in reducing the spread. Sending you tons of prayers, positive thoughts and (((hugs))).

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 

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I will only speak of my experience -- turn it over, pray, lean into your program, whatever works for you...but for me...none of that was a substitute for me being prudent, safe, and making intelligent decisions. For me, all of that, one or more of them...were not a reason for me to be complacent, paralyzed into non-action, relying on something else to do it for me, and so on.

That aside...be safe!!!

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Determining the next right thing usually comes when I turn to get quiet and still with HP. Confusion and fear are often paralyzing for me and then I make bad decisions, or no decision.

But I would like to add that God gave us a brain to use. so using commonsense methods, plus faith in God....we feel safe here.

May (((((all))))) be safe



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Thanks everyone. Your thoughts are most appreciated. Lyne

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I hear ya Lyne.......time for loving detachment and doing the next right thing.....just , like me, I am scared...job loss would be devastating, what jobs, i have left, but I am MAKING me do step 3 AND turning it over....I am too old for chaos anymore...

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