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In today's reading from C2C, the author shares their reaction to learning about a crisis in the life of an alcoholic loved one. The author was trying to work, but found themselves depressed, slumping in their chair, distracted by their projections of all the terrible outcomes that could result from the loved one's crisis, and dreading the ways the consequences could impact the author.
The slogan "One Day at a Time" helped remind the author that, despite their fears, they do not know what tomorrow will bring. Worrying will not protect us from the future, it will just keep us from living here and now.
Today's Reminder: I needn't explore how I'll feel about something that might occur in the future. I don't actually know how I'll feel, and it might never happen. So when I feel myself leaving the present, I'll remind myself that the future is not today's problem.
Today's Quote: "Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow; it only saps today of its strength." A.J. Cronin
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I really like today's reading. So many times, I've found myself worrying about what tomorrow might bring, and I can waste today with worry and attempting to bargain with HP about a projected crisis. The slogan "One Day at a Time" helps me stay focused on the present, and when I'm not sure what to do next, "doing the next right thing" helps me take little steps. When I'm really struggling, "one moment at a time" is a slogan I use. What is happening right now? Am I ok right now? How do I feel right now? What is the next right thing? These questions help me to return my focus to today, to bring me back to the present moment, so I can deal with this moment, and let future moments take care of themselves. I've noticed that this approach has helped me to manage my stress (which is considerably high at work these days) and keep my life in the "manageable" range.
I hope you make your today a great one!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Skorpi, what a great reading and share. Thank you. I also must practice, practice, and practice ODAT, OHAT, and OMAT. I continue to turn my will and my life over to the care of God. I can not only get stuck on worrying about my A, but there are lots of other things that I used to be consumed with, causing me to miss the opportunities with the day I have. To make the best of this day I have, is the next right move, and I shall carry this thought with me throughout the day. Lyne
Thank you Skorpi for your service and today's C2C reading.
The slogan, "One day at a time", not only reminds me to stay focused and in the moment but reminds me that if I spend anytime worrying about the "what ifs" than I am missing the things that are happening now that are important.
Why worry about the "ifs", when they may not happen to begin with!
I love this quote:
When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened. Winston Churchill
Just love Al Anon, thank you again Skorpi! Blessings.
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Lyne, I fully understand ODAT, OHAT, OMAT... oh so much- and i was so stuck there.
I always said too myself- I was locked up and stuck between the "what ifs and the if onlys." That is a deep well between regret and foreboding. As I wrote here- I think widely for the right word to say. And today these words do come too light. A great relief! ...
Thank you Skorpi for your service and the daily! Thanks to all of you for your ESH and shares. ODAT has literally saved my mind and sanity over and over and over again since my recovery journey began. I was one who rarely lived in the present - I was either projecting forward, worse case scenario or I was trying to rewrite the past. Neither ever served me well and truly were a waste of my energy!
I still can have a moment of 'panic' when faced with 'life' at times. I have practiced, and continue to practice (and improve) using the Pause to Pray before I proceed. Just adding a moment of pause helps me center, and come right back to the here/now in this One Day - which may be all that I have!
Happy Hump Day all - we have a weird day that starts out warmer and then drops. I decided to flip things upside down as I had errands to do! Did not get all done, but most - which is OK! (((Hugs))) MIP family!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks Skorpi,
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