The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I'm not sure how many meetings are in your area, but you might want to try branching out and exploring other meetings, as well. There may be other male members in those meetings and someone you find who resonates with you.
In the interim, I find asking my HP for guidance daily on such matters to be most helpful. It's amazing what things can start lining up when I remember to bring God into the picture.
Thanks Aloha. Use my literature and HP everyday and while I think a Sponsor will help and enhance my recovery I don't feel it's urgent at this moment in time.
I think you're right. Just pray and one will turn up.Thank you.
Welcome to MIP Albion - glad you found us and glad that you shared. I am a gal so other than what Aloha's offered, nothing is popping in my mind at the moment. I do believe greatly in being patient and waiting for the 'miracle' to appear....just a thought.
In the meanwhile, if you have an interest in doing some step work with others, you can visit our Step Board here (look to the top, right hand side)...It's open for anyone to read and consider - if you want to post/participate, you will need to register for 'that area'. You can use the same username or not - choice is yours!
In the meanwhile, feel free to post, share, read, comment here anytime! We are a world-wide group of folks who do our best to share ESH with each other! MIP has been a lovely tool for my toolbox and I'm glad I stumbled in when I did. Keep coming back - there's always hope and help in recovery!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Aloha Brother....I went to your biography page after reading your "I don't think it urgent" statement because that was my thought process when I first arrived at the doors of recovery. I discover that you and I and Iamhere have the disease similarities a major one being the denial that "things just were not that bad yet" and taking for granted the description of our disease that "it is a disease of the mind, body, spirit and emotions and can never be cured only arrested by total abstinence". That was for me to know about me and didn't do a thing for the relationship with my alcoholic/addict wife. I didn't know anything about our disease....and didn't know that I didn't even know. I was by my own acknowledgment as "dumb as a stick" yet quite often didn't weigh the consequences of saying "no" to the suggestions of others who had more progress in recovery.
You and I and Iamhere and others here are "doubles". We are blessed to hold membership in both programs. I didn't follow the instructions on getting a sponsor until I was in Al-Anon for 9 years without an alcoholic assessment. After the assessment HP also led me to the doors of "the other program" and the assessment said, "the next time I drank...I died".
I practice "blind" faith often meaning that I will act on what is suggested without the real intention. The outcome has been being around since 2/8/79 and winning every attempt our disease has made on my heart beat and breath.
Go look up other meetings where your future might sponsor might be waiting. ((((hugs))))
There is no "one size fits all" in twelve step recovery. But there are trends, I suppose. My ESH is that steps 1,2,3, are good to do in a group. With a good robust group. Steps 4,5,6,7... with a sponsor. Steps 8 and 9 get us out on our own. And I like steps 10,11,12 back in a group again- beginning to give back, in a fruitful way. ...
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