The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The reading for Monday, 11/4, talks about the importance of acceptance, especially when dealing with unpleasant realities. The writer learned to have alternative plans ready when they could not count on the alcoholic to come through. By allowing acceptance, the author could give themself choices, and not have to depend upon someone else to get through their day.
Quote: Consider the little mouse, how sagacious an animal it is which never entrusts his life to one hole only.
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Looking back, I think I learned to depend on others who were not dependable. And that?s a set up for disaster! This reading describes how I?ve been able to learn to depend on myself, whom I can depend on. And it gives me lots of choices, where in my past desperation, it seemed there was only one option.
Learning this alanon lesson has expanded my life choices in such an amazing way. It?s so simple, but seemed
I am opening and reading a cultural study regarding Hawaiian Epistemology which includes understandings within our program which includes the awareness of loving people for who they are. That is a good one for me. (((hugs)))
Thank you Lyne for your service, and your share.
Thank you Jerry as well - always happy to see your name! (miss your avatar)
As I move through my journey, I have found ACCEPTANCE is at the core of everything for me. Lack of Acceptance is what kept me sick and using unhealthy behaviors.
Thanking my HP for waking up today, for the extra hour of sleep, & for the willingness to embrace what this Monday brings!
Onward HO!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
What a timely reading.....aren't they all? Today I have praying like crazy for acceptance because I feel as though I have run the gamut of alternative activities to keep my mind off what my AH is doing or not. Key word being "not." When I find myself wanting to make sarcastic and passive aggressive comments, becoming disgusted and not at peace....I am obviously not accepting the situation. I know I don't have to LIKE it, but I do need to accept it if I am choosing to stay in this marriage and the behavior is not directed at me.
Sometimes I get so darned tired of being patient and making a Plan B. So darn tired. However, if I accept it is what it is and am grateful for my own full life, than I become centered again.
Thanks Lynn... outside of the alcoholic relationship we have to learn to care for ourselves. And to restore confidence so we can learn to make the right decisions. This took me time- but it did untangle the confused scripting I set out with. Thanks.
Thanks Lyne For your share and your service. I love the analogy about the mouse. I have been tested greatly in the department of acceptance, and it has helped me stay in reality and OK what is the truth and reality right now? And what can I do? What is the next best thing or right thing I can do for myself right now? And sometimes it is just settling down and breathing deep and just taking care of myself and nurturing my frighten inner child. I try, if I can have a Plan B, because a lot of people even good people, can be undependable. Even folks with the best of intentions can let me down, so I always try to have a Plan B and even C if I can Just in case, like that little mouse not having just one hole.
I most definitely really struggled with the concept of acceptance. I was always in #react# mode
These days I have quite a load on. But I am far better at managing it. I am constantly checking in with myself. I work on ways to take care of myself. I am ceetainky challenged but I am not going into that red danger overload mode. There are certain things I am not taking care of however and I am going to have to find room for them
These days I work on my calendar and am continuously asking myself what I need to do to take care of me
That us a far cry from trying to get the exA to step up. I am entirely self reliant
Someday I will be adept at self reliance but right now I am willing to be #in training#
Maresie
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