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So, change happens right? UGH.......A few weeks ago my company announced they will be doing layoffs, which were to start last week.
I was on vacation last week and was getting all the bad news updates whenever I had cell service. They laid off 600 people. My department is always short staffed so we didn't lose any folks but I do know people in other departments who lost their jobs. It was very sobering.
With that said, the guy who interviewed me for the branch position also got laid off 3 days after he interviewed me. I initially thought my chances were over. But on Friday, while on vacation I got a call from the other branch manager who got moved up to that branch to take over things. He left me a voice message that basically said: when you get back I want to do the formal interview ASAP.
So, after a 10 hour drive home on Sunday, I went into work on Monday and had an interview after work. It went really well. I felt like the job was mine based on the report we had and what we discussed.
Then, today, I get another message from him saying that things might be changing. With all the layoffs and budget cuts, he might have to hire me to take on more responsibility (too much to explain here but it's manageable in my eyes). I honestly told him I felt badly that my coworkers were jobless but I'm here interviewing and possibly getting a job with a 15% pay raise at the same company. Something just didn't feel right and he agreed that the whole layoff thing made him feel uneasy but that we all have to just keep pressing forward and do our jobs. I told him that I won't live in fear and if he wants to get me in there, I'm in 100%.
Tomorrow I have an interview with the 2 reps who I will be partnering with. We need to see if our personalities mesh and if they like me enough to trust me with the financial planning and dinners with clients, etc. I will have to sell myself all over again. This process is exhausting but I know it will be worth it in the end.
On a lighter note: my bf and I had a blast on vacation! We were commenting on how we don't get on each other's nerves and how companionate we are together. it's been over a year and I'm really enjoying taking my life one day at a time......except for this job thing......man, this is really testing my patience!
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So glad you have the job opportunity! It is in a lot of ways similar to my situation - my program is closing down, I have to lay off 20 people on my team, but I and 2 staff will continue with the company in yet-to-be-determined roles. I'm trusting my HP that the folks I have to let go will be cared for and have better opportunities, and that I and my remaining team will also be cared for. For me, I'm acting with integrity, and using the Al-Anon program to get through the difficult conversations and lay-off plans. I'm so glad that Al-Anon has taught me to practice the pause, and keep my focus on myself and what I am doing. It helps me to stay more balanced with crazy work stuff.
And - so glad you had a wonderful vacation!
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
It is concerning the amount of lay-offs that I am recently hearing about.
However, in your case, I say go forth and CONQUER, GF!!!!
(This posted before I was finished!)
I really liked the update about the vacation! It is physical proof that you are working a good program! Keep doing you, and I wish for you a great outcome with your interview! You got this!
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-- Edited by PosiesandPuppies on Wednesday 25th of September 2019 09:07:58 AM
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Hey, hey Girl - yay for you! A great trip, a 'fun, natural' relationship, a new job opportunity - I see these as gifts well deserved. I remember working for a company that was going through lay-offs. It was such a tense time and while I survived until I volunteered to separate, I struggled with survival guilt and continuous anxiety. I would probably have been way better off if I had the tools of recovery then, but I did not....
So - I hope you just keep showing up, doing one day at a time and trusting your progress and program. Excited to hear about how things unfold and glad to hear that all is 'well' in your world! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
So, I sat with the 2 partners I will be working closely with and things went so very well! This job is like a dream job for me. A way to use my talents and abilities without the pressure of sales numbers. I will still have matrixes to meet and job expectations but I have a lot of freedom in how I manage the job. We basically conducted today's meeting as if I already had the job and we talked about the day to day and how we would all work together to get clients onboard and how to work with existing business, etc.
I got my questions answered and I truly felt so comfortable with both guys. Which is good, considering we'd be working side by side day in and day out. But the best part of my day was when my bf gave me a hug and told me how proud he was of me for chasing my dream instead of staying in the comfortable job I'm in right now. That means a lot because I have chosen to focus on ME and my goals and dreams and he loves and respects that about me. It's just nice to be supported by a partner, at times.
Anyway, I should find out more by the end of the week!
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Awesome news my friend! Love, love, love the awareness that you are loved and supported as you focus on your own needs and authenticity. Way to go! I've got you in my thoughts and prayers and your share made my heart smile this morning. Keep doing you - you got this!!! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Yes, your share brought a smile to my face! Thank you!
As we used to say in band... "Good Skill!" (b/c luck had little to do with the outcome... it was how much you prepared and your skill of playing that day!)
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
WOW!!! I'm glad for you and yea, its concerning to me as well...layoffs all over the place...the company I was with (I was contract, I have my own business) but I was there ELEVEN years and we bellied up...I had to "verify" everyone for unemployment...and now I am out of a job...lost a lot of monthly income and with me being only PT, can't work FT anymore due to the GAD/PTSD, I get tired when I get too much "peopling" but yea, it is really tough out there...I'm cert. pub. bookkeeper, but they are a dime a dozen now, even tho I have 24 carat reputation and great references, its been a month and NO interviews as yet...so you go and you shine there, which I know you will....Sounds like you will be OK and enjoying what you do is a BIG thing..employers notice that!!!!
I really enjoyed reading your post....GOOD JOB!!!!!
Oh no, Mamalioness, I'm so sorry! I hope that you turn up some work somewhere. My whole family is bookkeepers and accountants and they always find small jobs and part time work. I hope you find something that fits for YOU!
As for me, everyone.......I got the job OFFER!!!
And, I accepted!!! 20% increase in pay and a complete turn around on what skill sets I'll be using, etc. It will be quite an adjustment. I start on November 1st so I have 1 month to finish up with my current role and then I'm off to the races.
One of my friends (outside of program) pointed out to me how far I've come in 5 years. 5 years ago I was still married and asking for a divorce. I hadn't moved out yet. I hadn't worked for 16 years. I was directionless and all I knew was how to be a mom and how to care for my home.
5 years later, I'm making a very decent salary, have multiple licenses in my field and (apparently I need to get one more for this role, go figure), I own my own home. Never did I ever see that coming. The feeling of independence nearly brought me to tears at work today.......just realizing how far I've come in a short amount of time. I've busted my rear, I've enjoyed life, as well, and I've hit a lot of speed bumps (like getting in and out of a bad relationship)......but looking back, I see that it's coming together.
I have no complaints today. I'm just doing my best to live one day at a time and I'm preparing for a new promising role at my company. Taking the bull by the horns so to speak!
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(((B))) - yay, yay, yay for you! Your share and level of excitement about your new job made my heart smile! Even better, the awareness you share about where you are vs. where you were.....I am always full of joy when others share the miracles of recovery, life, etc. I am so, so, so proud of you - keep doing what you're doing cuz it just looks absolutely fabulous on you!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
SO GLAD you got the offer........I hope so, (small folks needing PT bookkeeper) AND I am certified as pub. bkkpr....I just can't and neither can my family and friends figure out WHY none of my efforts are working out....I have to fight off the depression, and its getting hard, but hey!!! this is YOUR post and I want to congratulate you....you're gonna be so happy, you already SOUND it...more $$ for you, sounds to be a fun job....GOOD ON YOU!!!! I can *feel* your excitement over this....and BOY have you come far, I remember the old Andromeda vs the NOW and its unbelievable how far you have come.....GOOD JOB!!!! GLAD for you!!!!
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