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I feel a little bit of grief but not a lot. I guess his being in AA is not as effective as maybe another death might be more painful. I know that this person was trying to stay as healthy as possible. He was taking walks daily for quite awhile & just had a heart attack while he was walking. He died a week ago. IF I had known that I wasn't going to see him, I would've been more vocal on Thursday. But no one knows when it is going to happen. His best friend made his wife a widow twice over then in the in the past 10 years. I feel especially sorry for his widow. I have yet to talk to her. The service is a week from tomorrow(Saturday) I will pay my respects then. It is actually the same church as my friend's funeral--his friend. Anyhow, I will check my emotions at the door & remember the program affects us all no matter which one it is.
Good day for the rest of you! No complacency here. I got over the jitters. I guess that sometimes goes w/ turning it over.
Kathleen... taking timeout to remember, is healthy... to mark the passing. I grew up in a no-cry, no-tears culture. And no kids too. So we did not see or hear grieving. We honour the person who has left us; we sometimes close ranks, and spread the load of grief. This is real life. This is love, in the broad sense. And this is healthy! ...
(((Kathleen))) - I am so sorry for the sadness you feel and for the loss you're experiencing. As we never know when one will be called home, it does matter (to me) how I act and treat others daily. Hang in there and know that prayers for another experiencing grief are a great form of support and service!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Kathleen, so sorry for your loss. I have come to believe that we are allowed to grieve in our own way. Others do not have to understand. Your writing about this on the board shows you do have feelings. Any death is a final chapter in the material world. Best, Lyne
"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Kathleen... taking timeout to remember, is healthy... to mark the passing. I grew up in a no-cry, no-tears culture. And no kids too. So we did not see or hear grieving. We honour the person who has left us; we sometimes close ranks, and spread the load of grief. This is real life. This is love, in the broad sense. And this is healthy! 
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