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Hi Im back after 4 years , my A started drinking again last week after 3 1/2 years sober , I had a stroke 2 years ago my health has not been good all the stuff I use to do can not do anymore I cant help but feel responsible for him to start drinking again . I need strength Im afraid his drinking will get out of control again . Plus hes has diabetes and have no idea what that is going to do with his drinking, Im just looking for hope
Welcome back wisdom67 - so sorry for your stroke and his return to active drinking. All I know for me is when things get crazy around me, I do best when I can lean into my program, my support (sponsor and program friends), my literature, etc. It doesn't fix others, but it helps right-size my mind and bring me back to center.
There is always hope and help in recovery - for both of you! Please keep coming back and know you are not alone!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I am sorry to hear that your husband has relapsed. While there is always hope, Iamhere is so right when she speaks of "leaning in" to Program...it will help you to feel strong, even if there is chaos around you.
I wish you Peace this weekend!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Welcome back...there is hope for YOU. You can find contentment, even happiness, whether the alcoholic is drinking or not. You know -- intellectually and in program -- that you did not CAUSE this. You can't CONTROL it...and you certainly can't CURE it. Also remember, part of ACCEPTANCE is the acceptance that alcoholism is a disease, and more importantly, it's a progressive disease...and an insidious disease!
Take care of yourself!!! YOU!!!
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Keep coming back...
God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
Aloha Wisdom and welcome home. You didn't forget where family was and here you are. I am feeling for you and your alcoholic. This is certainly not and easy event to accept without a power greater than ourselves. I learned from the old timers how to go and sit at the knee of my Higher Power and just turn it all over. I still do that because I have had promises in the past fulfilled in my recovery. Not guarantees but the evidence that our program works and works better than we trying to do my life without it.
Prayers of course!! and since my wife and I will be taking off for the early morning meeting shortly I can and will remember you and your alcoholic during my participation.
Please take care and I agree with liking your avatar....beauty!! (((((hugs)))))
