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I got married at the beginning of the year. I have truly broken free of the codependency & dysfunction of old I am living a decent life without the misery of old. However I have lost a 42 year old childhood friend due to overdosing this month, another close friend of mine was drunk and severely injured a couple of young kids in a head on accident and is facing possible prison time and yet another childhood closest friend is about to lose her kids due to her pill and alcohol intake. I don't even live near any of these old friends, but I'm still feeling the old dysfunction and effects of my nemesis of drugs & alcohol. I have cleaned house within and done the work to hopefully keep the effects of this from my front door with al-anon, but only time will tell if my kids remain free of the effects, but I pray it remains so. My oldest turned 21 today and thus far as a junior in college she is doing great and our younger kids are excelling thus far at school and life. My exAH is barely present during the school year per his normal which is fine with me except for the occasional call when he is drunk and wants to speak with our 10 year old daughter that still thinks he is an amazing dad, which I let her, because sadly she is already seeing some things that come with him being an alcoholic and barely present in her life. I'm feeling some waves of old and grieving for my friends and wish so much more for them. I know I have no control over much, but I' feeling it is time to come back and work through the steps again to keep my head straight through this. Sending you all love & support on your journey's!
-- Edited by Breakingfree on Sunday 17th of February 2019 10:24:27 PM
Hi Breakingfree missed you -- Thanks for the update. Loved the wedding picture-- Such a handsome couple!!!.
Glad that your life is on track and am sorry to read of the painful issues that your friends are enduring.
Reworking the Steps is always a good idea
(((BreakingFree))) - great to see you and congrats. on the marriage! Great photo and happy looking couple. I am so sorry to hear how the disease is affecting those you love/care about. I can so relate to your truth and love the idea of reworking the steps and leaning into recovery. You have been missed - keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
What a wonderful wedding picture filled with HOPE for your future!
You are so smart to begin the Steps again when faced with so much addiction tragedy around your periphery!
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Hi BF-I try not to think about the past painful relationships. I know it comes up sometimes and is in my face, but the sooner I let go and let God, the better it is for me.
A woman in my F2F started re-doing her steps with her sponsor and I decided to do this myself. I first did the steps over 5 years ago, and what a difference I see in myself! I feel like Im on an adventure with my sponsor and Im so happy to be doing this again, Lyne
I keep coming back to Al Anon for the very reasons you speak of and because my son has to deal with his father who is deep in his disease. I completely understand and one thing I know is that you can never go wrong working the steps over again........
I know I plan to do it for the rest of my life, even though I am in a happy and fulfilling relationship today. I still find that i can use program in my work relationships and I can use what I learn to help my son.
Hugs to you! I loved all your wedding pics! What a beautiful and joyful bride! Love you!
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Congratulations on your marriage and thanks for sharing the beautiful wedding picture. I am sorry to hear about the loss of people you've loved and cared about in your life. Good to see you again. Keep coming back to share. ((hugs)) TT
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So awesome that you have brought your journey and progress back to share with us. You remind me that my recovery and program is a daily journey which I feel extremely grateful for. Keep coming back!! (((((hugs)))))
Great to hear from you. I'm checking in today also. It's a blessed life but glad we have each other to trudge the road with. I am lured back thinking, "my alanon peeps would know what to do in this situation"
