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Iamhere


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Life Happens.  No matter who we are, where we are, how we are, life happens.  It's taken me some time to recenter after my son's recent relapse.  I am not 'perfect' nor did I desire to be so but I did find peace through this spiritual program.  I even made multiple plans this coming week and was really excited.  I still am but as I said, Life Happens.

A nephew to me by marriage is on life support in another state.  I am still kind of numb as the news is shocking.  We were not aware that he was a drug user, and he's 'there' because of an overdose.  We are processing, praying and sad.  The most likely outcome will be pulling the plug and donating organs.  He's a little older than my boys, so it hits close to home.

I called my parents (as I do each Sunday), and my mom is having her pace-maker replaced on Wednesday - also in another state, not too close.  I guess they (84 and not getting younger or sharper) didn't think they needed help/support which is OK.  However, my father has an enlarged prostate, and they are going to do an ultrasound on Tuesday to determine what's next.  

I am reminded how powerless I really am - and for me, it really goes beyond basic people, places and things.  I am to go out of town Thursday evening to meet up with my gal pals from HS.  That's about an hour away - and I am hoping I don't have to cancel and go to another location based on my 'life events' above.  It is at times like this I am so grateful we really try to live just one day at a time.  Just for today, all I can do is pray and ask God how best can I serve.  My fear, shock, sadness, etc. is so, so secondary in all 3 events.  It's so not about me even though a part of me 'thinks that way'.

So, I have asked for prayers locally and I am reaching out to my extended MIP family for the same.  Please keep my family (extended, geographically disbursed and a bit dysfunctional) in your thoughts and prayers.  As more is revealed, I will share what I can.  Thanks...



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Yes, of course. Do let us know the progress. Prayers and in my thoughts - all of you. Take care (step by step).


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((IAH))) prayers for you and your entire family

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You and your family will be added to my prayers tonight. (((((IAH)))))

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  ((((((((((((((((((( IAm ))))))))))))))))))))

                   Family is family... 



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IAH,

Sending prayers to you and family!

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Thanks all - no updates as of yet and we're in a state of waiting. (((Hugs))) to all...

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Letting go and letting God is my go to condition.  In the meantime prayer and meditations will not interfere with what ever else is going on in life.  Thanks for the Trudge message Sister.  Stay calm.  ((((hugs)))) wink



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(((Iamhere)))) Prayers for you and your family. TT



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Just a quick update. The young man was taken off life support this morning, and did pass quickly. It's a sad day when the disease claims another life. Thanks to all for the prayers, please keep them coming!

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(((iamhere)))) I'm so sorry for the loss of your nephew due to this awful disease. Prayers for your family as you grieve. This is so incredibily sad. I'm so very sorry. TT



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(((IAH)))  I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your nephew.  My prayers to you and the family.  I am also sorry about your son's relapse and the impact on all of you.  This disease is particularly cruel as it robs SO MUCH and we are powerless and devastated watching it.  Again, prayers for your family....

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((IAH))   I am so sorry to hear this -- Prayers continuing



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((((IAH))))

I am sorry to hear of your nephew's passing. Continuing prayers for his family and yours.

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Thanks family - and now for some blessed news - my mother had her pace-maker replaced this morning and all is well! She came through the procedure without any issues/concerns. Because of age/stage/other medical issues, I was so glad to hear this news a short while ago...She's still in recovery and I expect to hear from her in the next few hours. The power of prayer is so real! (((Hugs)))

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 Oh Iam...

                my nephew passed the same night my mum did- a few years ago. Double-whammy...

              I always plan an all-out attack on the disease... still trying to find answers... biggrin ...



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Sending prayers for you and your family and warm hugs as well.

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Wonderful news about your mom!  Hugs!



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I envision us all standing with your nephew before HP and walking him over in peace of mind and serenity.  Mahalo for your recovery attitude also.   ((((hugs))))hmm 



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You are the best family anyone could ask for! My parents are driving home as I type. They are 84 going on 85 and I have this visual of them cruising down the highway headed home (45 minute drive, 75 mph speed limit) and just chuckle in my mind...my 'little old people' make my heart smile just like my 'little young people'.

I will worry less when they've arrived home, but do know that God's got this and all other 'life events' that are happening. (((Hugs))) to all!

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Great New re mOm IAH Hp's power is precious

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I feel that as my family ages, I worry more, and that includes my 20 year old son, my baby sister who's struggling with multiple health challenges right now, and my mom/stepdad/aunt, etc.

And, as it seems in your family, that when it rains it pours. Hugs to you and sending prayers to you and your families. You are not alone and I truly believe it's all part of acceptance, aging, and truly understanding that we really just don't have control of much of anything but ourselves. Big, huge HUGS!!!

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Hey (((B)) - thanks for the big hugs! I so, so agree - we are as powerless over aging parents as we are this disease. The parents made it home safe last evening and I'll call today when it seems the best time. We are still waiting for results from my dad's testing - and I do know that God's got this!

Great to see you!!

(((Betty))) - I so agree - it makes my heart smile to know, belief and accept the love of God in my life...

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