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I've just about got my husband trained to wash his hands. He still forgets when he comes in from the outside world, and has to be reminded after scooping the litter box sometimes.
It is my theory that if your mother didn't start with this when you were a baby and have it down by the time you were five, you never are going to be clean enough to work in the food industry (or even cook at home) or the health-care industry. And you will be extremely hard to live with, if you spouse is conscious.
It seems to be hard to learn as a teen or adult.
But keep plugging. If you are a parent, you can influence your children. If you are a spouse, you can finally make a dent in your SO.
And I think hand sanitizers are a menace. I keep the little simple foil-wrapped towelettes in the car for when I'm shopping, etc.
For a better world! This is a pain to read. Focus on the color of the place you are to click on. Otherwise, you get sent to all kinds of advertiser's sites. I'm about to get the hang of this.
Temple
Hope this works. I have trouble posting links. It's on Daily Mail, Saturday, January 5.
-- Edited by Temple on Saturday 5th of January 2019 03:09:25 PM
-- Edited by Temple on Saturday 5th of January 2019 03:52:45 PM
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It's easy to be graceful until someone steals your cornbread. --Gray Charles
Temple - I am a self-professed germaphobe and a frequent hand washer. I have two sons, and they were shown, taught, reminded, instructed, etc. to wash their hands often, esp. after using the bathroom or before cooking/eating....yet - they have habits that are way different than mine today. As with all things, I am powerless! I will readily admit they've both had restaurant jobs and since I know their habits, I am quite reluctant to eat where they have worked. Just saying....as with all things, that serenity prayer comes in handy!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
After that article, I am ready to only eat Veggie-Washed fruit anywhere but at home.
Husband worked on the Kitchen Force in his fraternity--he's always told me, "You don't want to know."
One of my favorites is the young people who think there is something magical about the little lightweight plastic gloves.
A girl at City of Faith office building in Tulsa, back in the day asked me what I wanted, I said a sandwich, but I want Her to make it. Why? Back getting up. Because you have touched your hair, the doorframe, and several other things.
That's too bad that your boys didn't get it even though you trained them from a young age. It must be a guy thing. I guess there isn't a time or place to wash your hands, let alone water, when you are tracking a Wooly Mammoth across the tundra on about day 12. Never thought of that before.
Now I have to worry about the hand=drying machines in rest rooms. I hear they are worse than towels--wonderful little germ-dispersing machines. I'm a tad paranoid--don't have the world's best immune system.
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Thanks for responding. I learn so much from you. Or perhaps I should say I get exposed to so much good information and examples from you. A tad slow on the learning part
Hugs,
Temple
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It's easy to be graceful until someone steals your cornbread. --Gray Charles
I lived in a pig stye...my mother did not shower each day, didn't brush her teeth every day, and when on a binge, she would never bathe when she was getting loaded on her 80 proof sabatical from life...and she stunk!!!! I couldn't stand being around her.... but I turned into a "clean freak" I guess because in my sick mind, I WAS cogent enough to realize that If i did the OPPOSITE of what those 2 freaks did, I was in good territory....I dont' wash my hands at every turn, but I do wash b4 I prepare and eat food, or make a smoothie to drink....I wasn't taught to be clean...I just kinda became that way due to my abhorrence to BO and bad breath....I use the sanitizers when available, I have towelletts to clean me if I am in "nasty" territory....Like when I go thrifting...and HAVE to use restroom, I use my OWN huggies to clean me and I never tough anything in the restroom with my hands...I don't "sit" , of course, and if the lid is up??? I leave it that way b/c I aint sitting anyway....oh yea, huggies in my purse are a must...I can leave the lip gloss but not my huggies.....I hear ya, mate...cleanliness is in a person or it is not...my brothers aren't very clean...the druggie goes forever w/out a bath, I hear...the alkie is not mr. clean either....I don't understand how people can let themselves go like that...to me, it is lacking a sense of respect and love for self....sad....I love my brother next to me, but I cant' have him over for a visit and getting drunk on me and not being clean....I can just see me, at 105# shoving a big 160# 5'11" male nto the shower.....
-- Edited by mamalioness on Saturday 5th of January 2019 08:37:27 PM
Hi Temple-Same problem with my A, with my son and my granddaughter, and I observe many people ignoring simple habits. With the people close to me I try to: Say what I mean, mean what I say, but don't say it mean. With the rest of the situations, I pray a lot! Lyne
