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Post Info TOPIC: Courage to Change December 19


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Courage to Change December 19


Hello MIP! 

Today's courage to change speaks to the impact of living with the disease of alcoholism. The author shares that alcoholism is a physical, emotional, and spiritual disease and that we who live with the impact of the disease can benefit by checking on our own well being by checking in on our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. 

The author suggests that we begin by asking ourselves if our physical well being is a priority - are we eating well? are we sleeping enough? are our medical and dental needs being addressed? Do we keep ourselves clean, do we take breaks, do we exercise? Then, the author suggests we check in on our emotional well-being. Are we aware of our feelings? Do we voice our emotional needs? Do we have Al-Anon sponsors and friends who can help us through the tough times? Do we take time to enjoy ourselves? Finally, the authors suggests that we check in on our spiritual well-being. Do we have a relationship with HP? Do we make time for prayer and meditation? Do we regularly engage in program work? 

Today's Reminder: By simply taking inventory of my self-care habits, I am beginning to improve them. 

Today's Quote: "Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world." George Bernhard Shaw

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Today's reading was a great reminder. When I first came to the program, I was not taking good care of myself in any of the ways highlighted by our author. Over time, I've made improvements in my own self-care first through awareness, and then through gradual change. I picked something, and tried to do a little bit of that each day. Exercise seems to have fallen to the wayside somehow, but I'm aware of the lack of it in my life right now, and that is the first step toward making a change  

I hope you make today a great day! 



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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu



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Thank you Skorpi

I took OK care of myself, physically, but I really did not take that good care of me spiritually and mentally and emotionally until I got into the program and realized all the self care I wasnt giving myself and little by little believing that I deserved it as well. I always tell people I lived two lifetimes: The one before recovery and I am living the second life now in recovery and there is a big difference between the old me and the healing me of now.

Thank you for this reminder that we have more than just a physical eating and sleeping and exercising and all of that care, But there is the mental , emotional and spiritual care as well. Now I check in with me every day and do several spot checks during the day to see how I am doing and feeling in all areas

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Thanks Skorpi for the daily and mama for the share. This reading addresses really important factors which can all get lost when suffering from the effects of alcoholism. For me, my emotional health suffered and I didn't even realize what I was doing to myself, by trying to force my A to change. It wasn't until program got me on track that I could see me and focus on my own change. And completely unexpected, my A is sober and working with addiction counselor. Not perfect but all good, Lyne

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Good morning all! Thank you Skorpi for your service. Rose, I always admire your dedication to keeping yourself physically fit!!

This inventory thing really stood out to me... I can see that I am getting bogged down by daily life struggles. I am eating healthy for my body, but work is my only exercise, and I've been trying to move forward with limited belief in my HP. I know... 50 lashes with a wet noodle!

Thank you for the reminder Skorpi and Rose... I can work a little harder at my self care right now. Perhaps that's my answer to my being stuck in a level of sadness. I am not being aware of what I really need for me at this moment in time (the holiday season). I am concentrating on the hows and whys of giving to others, and letting my self-care slide. Hmmmm, I will need to ponder this some more!

Peace!

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Happy Hump Day MIP! Thank you Skorpi for the daily and your service. I did allow many things to take priority over me before Al-Anon. So much so, and with entrenched unhealthy habits that the entire concept of self-care was foreign to me. I really believed that being a good wife, mother, daughter, friend, etc included putting me last - boy did I have things backwards.

Today I do what I can to put me first. That includes self-care as well as needs. It does help me better deal with life on life's terms. I am grateful Al-Anon showed me a better way to be and live.

My momma made it in last night - a bit later than planned but has arrived! I feel like the driver in Driving Miss Daisy - which is all good with me! I am grateful to be of service to her for the length of her visit. I'll be around less which is OK - make today awesome all!!

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Good afternoon MIP,and thank you Skorpi for the daily.
Before program I viewed the world through clouded, negative glasses as these were my only tools. Since entering program and using the daily tools of gratitude list, prayer and faith in HP i know that I will find the courage and wisdom to live life on life's terms and that is freedom
Thanks for your service


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Hey (((((((((PnP)))))))))))) LIFE can "get in our way" lots of times...big changes, job change, marriage status change, moving...a death in the family, but one thing I learned......and this took a LOT of work....

Everyday, at an appropriate time, I sorta declare "social bankruptcy" in that I just say "ok..I need my me time, my exercise, breathing, meditating, body scanning where I literally put my hands over my chest and *get close* to my body, scanning it as to how i feel"

anyway, I've had to gently say "NO" to folks who knock on my door needing something that can wait....or needing me to do something that they absolutely 100% can do for themselves....IF I don't take that "me time" , I am useless to the ones who really do need a boost, and I check my motives before I lend a hand or give/do for another...

Used to be just exercise and my sports...NOW its a total self care plan.... A potential client wanted to talk with me on phone during my "me time" after 5pm...I told her that I was unavailable and "lets talk tomorrow ok???" Even tho I need a bit more work, if she is meant to work with me??? It will happen...

I didn't JADE it, (Justify, argue, defend OR explain" Just said I was unavailable , I worked today, so my "me time" had to be around 5pm when off work and errands are done, dogs had their play time/bathroom break....so by 5, I was ready for my "me time"

it took LOADS of discipline, practice, commitment and MORE practice to do this...but I feel better , doing it....

MUCH HUGS to you

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KEEP IT SIMPLE_EASY DOES IT_KEEP THE FOCUS ON ME

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