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my Musings about when your day absolutely sucks!!!! I wrote this on facebook,a while back and got lots of "thank you's" because nobody wants to feel like they are alone and/or being picked on by some entity that "has it in for us"
When you're really having a bad day, i.e., Like soon as you get out of bed, you notice that you have a headache, then , as you get out of bed, you stub your toe on a table, as you stumble into the bathroom, to brush your teeth, you drop your toothbrush in the toilet and to add insult to injury,you go to turn on the hot water for the shower and you discover that the water company has cut off the water due to a big leak in street..
Some days, for all our good intentions, seem to go sour from the start. Maybe we're tired or feeling ill or preoccupied with a problem that seems insurmountable. Maybe we just got up on the wrong side of the bed.
Living one day at a time means getting the most we can out of today.
It also means we know today does not have to doom or dictate tomorrow. If we have a bad day today, that's all it is--a bad day. It does not mean we're bad or that the world is against us or that we might as well give in to our worst attitudes and behaviors since nothing is going right anyway. And it does not mean tomorrow will be a bad day, too.
When we have a bad day--and everyone does--there are a few things we can do while we wait it out. We can slow down. We can be quiet. We can detach. How else will we be able to recognize a wonderful day?
Even if it is lousey,staying in the now is important..it helps me focus on taking care of me..
Yep, I have them, we all have them...when I do, its time to SLOW down...BREATH.....re-boot....limit what projects I do..I'm not so into prayer but I do believe in getting quiet, meditating, centering myself...but MOST OF ALL, I am learning NOT to fight the negative energies that seem to be perched on my doorstep, trying to Mess up my days....Non resistance is KEY......AND, toss in some gratitude!! Gratitude can negate the most persistent of negativity....
OK, I am going to be one of those people who say, "Thank you!" for this post.
Yes, I am well aware we all have these days. But you know, once you get free from living in the chaos of addiction - whether that be yourself or a loved one - you get used to having days that are so much better than the old days, that when you have one of those "lousy days," you can be taken aback!!
I actually had a couple this week... very similar to what you described... from the moment I hopped from my bed!
It is these times that the Program works wonders! Just like you, I found that if I stopped, took a deep breath... OK... maybe several, I can now live the day without thinking God or Fate or whatever is out to get me!
Sometimes, I have found that if I employ the "gray rock" philosophy to the day, I can get through it much easier!!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Rose-Always happy to have such a positive and uplifting post which reminds me I can make lemonade out of lemons if I want to. And since I joined program, I want to! Lyne
I've had a Bit of a Roller Coaster of a Week, Emotionally, Mainly... But Thanks to this Program I've learned to move past the negative, and Like Bo Mentioned, I Remember I Can Start Over at Any Moment for a Better one... It is Sometimes a Daily Practice... But I'm Grateful I have the Tools to Do it ;)
Thank you for Reminding me to Stay Human, and Its OK :)
((((((((((((Jozie))))))))))) hey girl, glad to see you...and OH yea!!! re-boot my day sometimes many times...start over many times , as needed....I am glad U got something out of my post....and yea, its OK for us to be human...I snapped at a dear friend on Tuesday, last and I immediately made amends...I was not gonna let my crappy day spill over onto someone I loved...I called him up and apologized and shared some of the drama and told him, "no matter what!! I was 100% in the wrong to snap" He was trying to get me to be a "rep" for this electric company he is with...you have to put up $$$ AND hope you get people to sign up....I told him "no thanks" and , bless his heart he was only trying to help me, he wanted to "come over" and talk to me about it and I snapped his head off.....That was wrong..no matter what...I am soooo gr8ful for this program......and yes!!! You and I are always Friends in recovery.....HUGS
Rose, earlier today I replied to your Grey Rock question, but I don't see it... probably b/c it had a link.
Just Google "Grey Rock"... You'll find it!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
