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{{{David}}} So sorry for your loss. Sometimes there is so much to take care of that we forget to find time to mourn. Wishing you peace and serenity at this difficult time, Lyne
My loving thoughts are still with you, David. Keep peace with yourself while you are being strong for others.
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
(((David))) - I too am sending continued thoughts and prayers your way. Grieving is such a process and it happens when it's supposed to. Know we are here for you...you are not alone!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
David you have been a real part of my life also for which I am grateful. I relate to your ESH in many ways and that keeps my own recovery real along with my relationship with my Higher Power. My relationships with my family have passed and continue to pass with the exception of my relationship with my HP which will continue to the end and for which I am truly grateful. So often it is our membership which holds the door open for my HP to enter. Thanks so much for your ESH. ((((Hugs))))
Welcome back (((David))) You've been through a lot in a short time, seen people whom you don't see everyday at home and have lost a sibling. Whatever the relationship, whether we are close to the family member or not, losing a family member can call to the surface so many feelings about them, ourselves, our families and mortality. Grief can be exhausting and confusing. Also, as Betty said, you've made a long trip. Long trips are tiring. Please take good care of yourself. It sounds like you feel you did a good job working your program under very difficult conditions. It sounds like you responded rather than reacted when amongst grieving family members. Now you are back home with those who share your every day life and can reflect and heal from this loss with the help of your higher power. Prayers continue for you and your family. TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
Sad... I shared on my other group... our kid brother had been an illegal in another county for over 30 years. I died in a diabetic coma of exposure. he was at the back door of his home. I only hope they gave him local anesthetic when the put the catheter in. His 2013 car had been tail-gated but was still actually going at the time. A danger to himself and to others.
But the VA boys in the neighbourhood picked in and helped me through the big clean-up...
...grieving is healthy- whatever the circumstances... it takes any shame or regret out of the memories... especially the night-time ones...
we have had lots of snow and rain at home... will be so glad to be back... yes... ...
Very Sorry for your Loss, and So Grateful for your Program, and how you Express how well you have handled what was put in front of you... Grief is indeed something we have to move through, and Some days are Harder then others, but please know you are Lifted in my Prayers for Healing of all the Hurt, that may come to pass and for your Serenity to be Safely back at home...
(((David))) - glad you checked in...know that thoughts and prayers continue!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
((((David)))) I am grateful for your participation in our recovery. I learn and come to understand more of what I need to have for my own recovery. Such as...
"...grieving is healthy- whatever the circumstances... it takes any shame or regret out of the memories... especially the night-time ones..." Truly when the teacher is ready the student arrives. Pule from Hilo HI. ka moku O Keawe.
This tests my faith- and finds it strong. Though going through much...
Trying to avoid the issue is not going to address the issue.
I strongly believe in the rites of passage and the rituals of encounter... I don't think this has been discussed at all within Alanon...
I think that they swirl all around us- all the time... and within this we would find healthy boundaries...
I always picture people doing a folk dance- friendly, casual and happy... things implied but not actually said- with set rules about touching and where to touch...
[and I mean that in the emotional sense too...]...
