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Post Info TOPIC: Courage to Change, November 16


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Courage to Change, November 16


It can be difficult to Let Go and Let God. In today's reading, the author finds it helps to visualize their loved one, that they are worried about, wrapped in a warm blanket and handed gently to their Higher Power.

Today's reminder: When I am anxious about other people, I need my Higher Power's help. Fighting with fear often strengthens its hold over me, but turning my loved ones over to God can free us all.

Quote: "Let Go and Let God teaches us to release problems that trouble and confuse us because we are not able to solve them by ourselves." -- This is Al-Anon.

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I come from a family of worriers, so I am very good at it.  I can worry about anyone, especially my children. Some of my worries are reasonable, and some are not. I have to work at managing that anxiety.  The program -- especially slogans -- has been very helpful.  The one I that works for me these days is "They have a higher power and it isn't me."  Also "How important is it?"  I like the reminder that turning these worries over frees -- not only me -- but others as well. It doesn't feel that great to know that someone is worried about you. It is better to feel that they trust you, or that they trust things will work out for the best.

I hope everyone has a worry-free day!



-- Edited by Freetime on Friday 16th of November 2018 11:34:08 AM

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Thanks so much Freetime: oh yea, let go and let God..this was perhaps my hardest challenge, being a "changing from" Agnostic to one who NOW believes there is a Creator/Higher Power/Universal source of all things good....I still have issues as to "how involved" HP is in my life, but I assume it is because I am not , working on it, but not fully connected with me....When I can manage to take my hands off...step back...turn it over...detach/walk away from it, the energy changes---always for the good...and yea, I am so familiar with the "fighting with fear" with situations , more than people, as a rule...I am getting better on this....releasing me from problems of any kind, frees up the universe to work on it.....and I can relate to being a "worrier" that was me..still, to some extent, but progressing..Thank goodness!! I am less tired...Less stressed...Less dreading, just doing this one simple yet hard act----LETTING IT GO!!! stepping back!! Whatever I want to call it , the result is same: peace and problems either get solved or disolve....and i like the slogan "how important is this???"

and may YOUR day be sunny and bright......gr8ful HUGS

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I remember coming to that place where I actually came to believe and then practiced that there was/is a God, a power greater than Jerry F and that it, He/She was real and always available to me.  Amazing that after years of religious instructions with my own religion of birth, private schools and involvement and more that I really didn't believe which is much much different than "knowing".  

The fellowship brought me to the practice of believing...the getting out of my head and "acting as if" and then I knew and felt the change of me getting into HP's life and the awareness that HP was real for me and always on hand for me to guide and support me 24/7.  I turned myself over to HP metaphorically as if I was an infant in a basket being left on the door step of HP's home.  I "Abandoned my self to God as I had come to believe in God".  I didn't surrender....I abandoned myself entirely and then continued to do so up to right now.

HP has never hurt me or steered me wrong which is why I keep coming back to working this program.

Great Post...Thanks so much.   ((((hugs)))) aww



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WOW!!! ((((Jerry)))) that was lovely what you said...."Abandoned myself to God as I had come to believe in God" maybe there is still this stubborn part of me, Fearful, more like it, part of me that hasn't done that, some but not total commitment.....hmmmm need to work , meditate on this one....

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Thank you Freetime for your service, the daily and your share. I, like my brother, had years of formal religious training yet had no personal relationship or belief in a HP's love and support of me. I could list many reasons why but the bottom line is 'let it begin with me' - I am the one who turned away and I am the one who believed I was unworthy and unloved.

In recovery, I too came to believe. I came to rely on the HP of my understanding and clearly it's not me. I feel today that my HP knows what's happening, knows what's best and truly has a bigger plan than I can comprehend. So long as I keep showing up and believing and growing and changing, he will take whatever I am willing to turn over.

I love pp 164 from the Big Book - this speaks to me as much today as it did 31+ years ago upon first read....

"God will constantly disclose more to you and to us. Ask Him in your morning meditation what you can do each day for the man who is still sick. The answers will come, if your own house is in order. But obviously you cannot transmit something you haven't got. See to it that your relationship with Him is right, and great events will come to pass for you and countless others. This is the Great Fact for us.

Abandon yourself to God as you understand God. Admit your faults to Him and to your fellows. Clear away the wreckage of your past. Give freely of what you find and join us. We shall be with you in the Fellowship of the Spirit, and you will surely meet some of us as you trudge the Road of Happy Destiny.

May God bless you and keep you - until then."

We've got a warmer day today and went for a long run and then to golf.....I am off to play in a softball tourney within the hour - love, love, love active fun days!!

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Hi Freetime Letting go and Letting God has become my "go to" tool lately.  Instead of rehashing old arguments or insults i simply say the serenity prayer and leave the situation in the past.
Thanks for your service



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So I am late to this party - it is now Nov. 17th am here - but I don't care. This post has such powerful ESH!!! I thank each and every one of you for inputting your take on what FT posted!!

I can let worrying get the best of me... but mine has a caveat... when my "ducks are all in a row (read when I think I have CONTROL), I don't tend to worry. When they aren't? You guessed it... worry city. So imagine me with my program... learning that Control is but an illusion! Yes, I did go through a period when my worry for others increased as I began to Let Go of the Control.

Today's reminder: When I am anxious about other people, I need my Higher Power's help. Fighting with fear often strengthens its hold over me, but turning my loved ones over to God can free us all.

Quote: "Let Go and Let God teaches us to release problems that trouble and confuse us because we are not able to solve them by ourselves." -- This is Al-Anon.

The above is very important for me. To know, deep within my heart and soul that The One Who Knows All has my loved ones warmly embraced...safe.

I had a good example of this last night when I was out with my girlfriends who have children the same age as mine. They were discussing their kids and how they weren't liking some things...  - some things I am privy to b/c I have an honest, open relationship with my Kid - and at one point I felt like I should've chimed in, "Yes, I have felt exactly the same thing, but you know what? They are now legally adults and they are being guided and protected by their Higher Powers." But it wasn't really the time or place, so I just sat back and thought that same line to myself. It actually was a perfect reminder for ME not to get enmeshed with their fears and to stay in my hula hoop with my Kidlet!! LOL! 

Now that I am looking back on last night's conversation, maybe that is exactly how my HP wanted to remind me!! Not that I had to do anything about that conversation except take it in and reinforce my faith that all will be well with faith in my and my son's HP!

Thank you all for such thought-provoking shares!

Peace!



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 ((((((((((((((((Betty)))))))))))))))))))))  ya know for the longest time, the "S" prayer was the ONLY prayer I thought HP heard, so I used it a LOT..And  as you say, the "go to" tool to this day....lettng Go and letting HP ....walk away...toss it off me...step back...yep..I am beginning to see that ultimately  Non -resistence is the only way.....aware...accept....act....even if acting is tossing it off me and onto the universal power /source of all things good....



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