The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The ODAT reading for November 13 speaks about what a new comer to Alanon might see and feel. The reading suggests that This newcomer is eager to recover so she picks up the tools, the slogans the Steps and attempts to use them at every opportunity. Everyone at the meeting is amazed at her progress and she will soon be asked to speak at a meeting. She explains that she wanted recovery so badly that she was determined to work the program daily and applied thee Steps to every phase of her life When she woke she recited the 11th step prayer and meditated often during the day. These meditations are responsible for her ability to stay in the moment and in the day and not drift off to yesterday and the fear, anger and resentments of her life
The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the spiritual exercise of this program are far reaching and recovery can be attained on a daily basis through this practice WE must look a the principles and believe that there is a source of help that is beyond our human understanding.. Gradually we all experience the miraculous results of using the 12 steps. Fortunately, are are led to believe in a power greater than ourselves, because we receive, through spiritual enlightenment the gift of faith. . We come to realize that the good changes in our lives could not have come about out God's guidance. If we admit the reality of our problems and can realistically appraise the experience of working we have reason for believing in a Higher.Power
Good morning Betty and thank you for your service, the daily and your share! Simply put for me, I have no doubt today that a HP is working continuously behind the scenes in my life. Before recovery, I felt unworthy, undeserving, alone and broken. I had spent so much time, energy and personal resources battling this disease that I struggled to believe a recovery program could really restore me to sanity.
Yet, day by day, with support from the program, tools, sponsor, meetings, etc. it did. I am grateful for a HP that knows exactly what I need when I need it. I truly want for nothing and that's one of many gifts this program has given to me. Happy Tuesday - it's super, super cold here today - winter has arrived! Make it a great day all!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Betty and IAH. It works if you work it is not just a saying, it's the darn truth! I watch my spouse attending meetings and having a sponsor, but there is no daily work being done, no enthusiasm, no great changes. I live with a dry drunk but I can only mind my business and do what is good for me. And I will practice and keep coming back, because program has the power to change a life, mine! Lyne
I remember when I first got into recovery, I was ravenous...There was this online CoDa group that had meets ea. day, 3x per day and the mods were great...it was a MSN group, I think, and it was wonderful..Lots of people from all over sharing their common desire: to THINK, ACT, LIVE better and I got to know a few of them personally..
I lived for those gut wrenching, but slowly freeing me of my demons meetings... I went to as many meets as they had..Like I became a Metaholic...and a postaholic...a stepaholic, and so on...the program was my WORLD and it will always be that way....when I see a growth change in me , I don't want to be EVER complacent, it makes me MORE hungry to be better and better....I CAN I CAN I CAN with the program and all its components...
.its like I have for the first time when I began in 2004, I now have structure..boundaries...consistency...I could TRUST that on Tuesday, the program would be the same principles on Friday...the steps never change..I change and grow with them...the slogans don't change..I change as I make them a habit...
I lived in the abyss for so long, I don't EVER want to let anything jeopardize my program and all its life saving parts....
Since program, I have "lost" a lot of relationships, but I look back and I see why!!!! I used to accept crumbs, now I do not..I used to have a high threshold for abusive treatment to me, now I do not..I used to gravitate to empty or shallow well people, now I do not..
Yes, my circle is smaller, but its better...I took me out of the bargain basement and I placed me under the glass where all the other quality jewels are stored....
I have my ups and I have my downs, but the downs, I know are temporary and yes, I cry, and i do my little anger/temper dance at times, but self talk, reassuring myself that "this is just temporary hit, it will pass" and I can walk through it better
I'm not where I want to be and its OK..I accept recovery is a journey, never a destination, but I am a hell of a ways from where I used to be...
Thank you for this timely reminder and your service dear Betty. I need to organise my life better. School, kids, recovery....I am missing a structure and for some reason, this reading is bringing that to my attention.