The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I learned on Friday that a childhood friend died from breast cancer. I had little contact with her in my adult life, but did send a yearly birthday and holiday card.
About two years ago we talked about making amends in my F2F meeting, and I realized with all the amends I had made, I owed her one. I didn't want to do it, I guess due to feeling ashamed, but about a year ago, I finally did. She was so gracious and said we both made some mistakes in teen years. She said I did not owe her an apology. We spoke of all the fun we had back then.
Were it not for Alanon I would feel so guilty that I had let that amends slide . I feel horribly sad about losing this person, for what she suffered, and no one had let me know she was near the end. So I am owning my sorrow and grief, but I have no regrets about the past. Grateful member, Lyne
Sending you support, love and for light to dwell in your heart, Lyne.
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
I am sorry about your friends. Learning and being willing to make amends is one of the biggest blessings of the program . I am so glad that you were able to do this for both of you.
(((Lyne))) - so very sorry for your loss! I truly am inspired that you were able to make amends and have no regrets. This to me is such a lovely reality that wasn't possible for me before recovery. I admire your courage and wisdom and thank you for this share.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
SO sorry for your loss, Lyne. I'm glad that you and your friend were able to reconnect and that you don't have regrets. (((hugs)))
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
So Very Sorry for your Loss of your Childhood Friend...
What an Honorable thing you did last year, I'm Sure even tho she said it was Not Necessary, she was Grateful you reached out to her... What a Blessed Moment to Share...
Beautiful Lyne...making an honest amend has also been one of the most powerful humbling affects of working the program for me also....Mahalo for bring that home. ((((hugs))))
