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EMOTIONAL BALANCE Made direct amends to such people wherever possible,. . . . . TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS , p. 83
This appears to have come for an AA reading of the steps and Traditions where the drinker has harmed folks with his/her sarcasm and nastiness, wrong doing: and they NOW cannot find or get with some of the people they did wrong....
These people are untraceable, and direct amends to them are not possible. The only amends I can make to those untraceable individuals, the only "changes for the better" I can offer, are indirect amends made to other people, whose paths briefly cross mine. Courtesy and kindness, regularly practiced, help me to live in emotional balance, at peace with myself.
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I see this as a reading for EVERY 12 stepper...Have you ever messed up someone, harmed them and NOW you can't find them?? Or they are deceased??? OR just too toxic to approach and to try would be like WW3???? yep...I have those folks whom I did wrong and I just CANT approach due to reasons stated above....so what do I do??? how do I make it right??? Clean My side of the street???? I've had this dilemma and what I do is I #1..Own/take responsibility that I DID it...#2 TELL someone and my HP about it #3, vow to learn from the wrong doing, not to repeat it and to "sow good seed" from here forward....Being Kind is a good start...
Wonderful thoughts, Rose! Thank you for sharing this!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
great reminder For those I am unable to make amends to, I have forgiven myself, learned the lessons of my past and have determiend to treat all with courtey and respect going forward. thanks for the powerful reminder
