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Each day a new beginning, today's entry YELLED at me to READ:
Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgment of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you're going to do about it. --Kathleen Casey Theisen
Recovery offers us courage to make choices about the events of our lives. Passive compliance with whatever is occurring need no longer dominate our pattern of behavior. Courage is the byproduct of our spiritual progress, courage to accept what we cannot change, believing that all will be well, courage to change in ourselves what we do have control over.
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This daily speaks out to me....Acceptance USED to = submission, "rolling over" to be hurt again w/out any options for me....as I understand acceptance, NOW, after 14 years in recovery, I see it as not necessarily "agreeing" with the person, place or event, not even "LIKING" the person, place or event, it just means, to me, accepting WHAT IS and "ok, what can I do about taking care of me in this situation????" my older daughter AGAIN has kicked me to the curb...Dunno what my "offense" was THIS time, but THIS time, I accept it..I am not fighting it..I am moving forward and onward with me and my recovery and working my program with my younger daughter who is my little "star" I am focusing on what/who I HAVE, not what/who I don't have...Do I like this??? Am I happy about her shunning me??? Of course not, but these are the facts today and I am in today...Instead of obsessing over her and what did I do?? (I emailed her and asked "do I owe an amend?? have I done/said something?? if so tell me and lets sort it out" NO answer..No acknowledgement..This is how she "handles" stuff...I am grateful that she is sober and sad she isnt' working her program...NOT my business....I am Powerless over her choices and decisions...but I can and am taking care of me..Doing the next right thing by me, for me, about me...Keeping the focus on me....Letting her go in love and best wishes...
-- Edited by mamalioness on Monday 27th of August 2018 12:43:44 PM
This is my first attempt at doing this, so I did my best. And I am thinking about what our dear friend David said. I dont have to justify myself regarding whether I belong here or not because I DO belong. because I belong to myself as he said so wisely
Oh ((((Bo)))) how many times have i had to "re-boot" my day over and over because I'm not mindful, or some other contra-recovery behavior/thinking.......and yep...nobody else controls what i think about, either....I do that..now, 14 years in recovery (Feb. 2004) I have learned how to and did reclaim my life...its mine now...so when I mess up, its Mine now....thanks for your , as usual, nice shares
I am bummed...searched all over the place and CANT find my hope for today............gotta re-order from good ole amazon..........dunno what I did with it
Hi Rose love this reminder Acceptance taught me that there are many things over which i am powerless, and if i simply accept them I will have more serenity and less stress. I no longer have to hit my head against a brick wall hoping to fix someone.
Love the thought that each day is a new beginning-- I do not have to carry the pain from the past into my present moment if I simply accept and learn the lessons that the past has taught me, I can gain courage, serenity and wisdom this way .
(((((((((((Betty))))))))))) yea, i love this "I don't have to carry the pain from the past into my present) that is so freeing to think..like yea, each day IS a new beginning..some times when I mess up, I carry it forward into the next day....don't have to do that....thank you for your share........
ordered the HFT and ODAT books....Lost em both......Not gonna carry this forward...move on....start over..
ordered replacements from amazon....only $17 for both, used in real good condition.....what I think happened is when i was downsizing, I just accidentally donated them, LOL...so someone will get a big blessing at my favorite thrift shop.....they weren't there so someone got a great deal on 2 awesome books.......oh well..work has been good, so no worries......
FOUND MY HFT..........just had to order the One Day at a time in alanon book.......YAAAAAAY!!!!!! HP told me to look behind the books..........so I did......
hey Bo., yep....good to do!!! carrying our RX on thinking with us...I put stuff on disk and email to me stuff that may or may not be CAL, but it is recovery and good stuff..like Beattie and Karen Casey...however, i can't just, at work break, pull out a book, so I get on my email folder (recovery stuff) and browse through it......be it my Iphone or computer....Need the "emotional sobriety" food that keeps me into good self care.....and yea, "all good"......
Thanks for being here, Bo...I enjoy your posts a lot
your very welcome LU.....your avatar is so peaceful looking....yea, I've decided to add the daily wisdoms to my "emotional workout" they just help me to be more positive.....
"Courage is the byproduct of our spiritual progress, courage to accept what we cannot change, believing that all will be well, courage to change in ourselves what we do have control over."
Thank you, Rose!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
you are soo welcome PnP....i love the "courage is teh byproduct of our spiritual progress" soo true...and I know I can only control me---WHEN i am working a consistent and steady , honest programme........nice to see you, PnP....Love watching you grow
