The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Not my will....:The writing talks about how difficult it was to admit powerlessness and needing help from HP. After all, they came to fix the alcoholic. They learned that the first three steps were not easy, and it was important to accept, Not my will but Your will. They now strive for progress not perfection, and can see God steps in and fixes things in ways they never imagined.
Today's Reminder: When I was dealing with alcoholism without the help of Alanon , I developed coping skills. These are no longer enough. Alanon is teaching me a new and better set of skills. I will try to be patient with myself. I'm doing fine.
Quote from Seneca: As long as you live, keep learning how to live.
I relate to this reading but at least now I can see humor in it, thanks to program. I only came to Alanon to learn how to fix my A. That would have solved everything , so I thought. WRONG! I didn't see how damaged I was and that I needed to fix myself.
The second part of the reading I find rather funny now, is that yes, I developed coping skills. But they were awful--anxiety, resentment, anger, no compassion, blaming, etc. So certainly Alanon is teaching me a much healthier way to deal with myself as well as my A.
I really can't imagine what things would like if I hadn't gotten involved with program. It has truly changed my life for the better, Lyne.
((((((((((((((Lyne))))))))))))))))) Oh yea, your coping skills were the same as mine, LOL.....I was just an awful mess!! I literally did not know how to live...no clue...Program has been my "main HP" and b4 i do something?? I think what did I learn from program in how to respond, (trying to respond, NOT react) and yea, alanon is my good teacher in how to live better and BE better....I was thinking about the "friends-family" I lost since recovery!!! and the ones I gained or kept since recovery...wow!!! most of my "friends" were either majorally CoDa or they drank...folks to "hang out" with, not to really share life with because they were as sick as I was....My circle is waaay smaller, but with more quality, thanks to programe teaching me a better way to sort things out and just day to day living and learning love....thank you for sharing this......I hear ya and I am with ya.....Program has "truly changed my life for the better"
Good Morning Lyne Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this important subject. prior to program I never looked at my negative coping tools and felt that I was perfect and others less than. Upon entering program I learned how to keep the focus on myself, examine my motives andso let go of my main "go to tool of "denial ". I was then able to gain new constructive tools to live by.
Thank you Lyne for your service, and to MamaL and Betty for some good ESH!
"I will try to be patient with myself. I am doing fine."
That's a good vibe for today!
Peace
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thanks Lyne for the daily and your service. Thanks for the ESH and shares above me. I too arrived with the hopes that someone would given me the tools necessary to fix my 'people'....LOLOLOL! I actually went away angry when it was suggested I should work on me, focus on me - pffft - in my mind, I was not the issue!
After more insanity and hitting my bottom, I returned with an open mind and heart. I tried, even when confused, to practice what was suggested and slowly some things improved or at least, bothered me a lot less. I was in denial about my insanity as well as my contribution to the chaos. I am grateful that HP led me back to where I could surrender my will, set aside my ego and work to become a better version of imperfect me.
I do belief I am doing fine and that I and all will be OK. I am grateful to be able to live this program one day at a time, have mostly serenity and joy and to just keep moving forward. My state today has nothing to do with length of effort - it's got everything to do with a willingness to set aside my own will each day, one day at a time.
Happy Monday all - been golfing already and it's really hot here! Resting for a bit and then have Taco night with program pals. I can honestly say without any reservation that I love my life. There are bumps in the road - sure - but when I lean towards this program and HP, I can readily admit that I am beyond words grateful....(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
