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. The ODAT reading for 8/ 25th speaks about ourr tendency to react on impulse. By reacting in this manner, and saying the first thing that comes into our minds, we defeat the purpose, The reading suggests we consider the slogan" easy does it "and taking the time to stop and think. if our response is reflective of ourr position and consider if f we are pouring more oil onto troubled waters .The reading suggests this is a wonderful protection for peace of mind so that living with ourselves in this way life becomes easier.
Quoteis " quietness is is a great ally, my friend, as long as I keep my poise I will do nothing to make matters worse
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Quietness "f quietness t is is a great ally, my friend, as long as I keep my poise I will do nothing to make matters worse
this is a great reminder for me today to keep calm in the middle of a crises,or what i would call a crises today.
Hey LU - good morning, happy Saturday and thank you for your service, ESH and share! I love all the slogans as they serve a real purpose for my recovery. Easy Does It does remind me to pause long enough to consider how important is it as well as if a response is necessary. I am grateful that my serenity is and remains my primary priority and to know that I am perfectly imperfect!
Enjoy your festival! I am off to a meeting in a bit and then a self-care day of rest, relaxation, meditation....love my life, all of which I owe to my HP, my program and my willingness to just be me!
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks so much (((lu))) for your service and sharing. This one really speaks to me. I can still have trouble with reacting instead of responding. Sometimes this comes in the form of trying to rescue another from an uncomfortable situation. In other words, not minding my own business.
Another example for me is preconceived judgement of another person. With that comes an expectation of how I believe they will act or what I believe they will say (Please Note: "I believe." It's essential for me to look to each action or verbal communication without imposing my emotions onto it. When I can stay in this emotionally neutral mindset, I am better able to respond vs react. I like our slogan THINK - thoughtful, honest, intelligent, necessary, kind. For me these are communication assets. When it's a verbal response or taking an action, my goal is to be respectful and mature. I'm a work in progress.
When I feel tense, I sometimes separate myself from the other person, take a moment to gather my composure, regain serenity, ask hp for help. If at this point, I am unable to quiet my feelings of dis-ease, if at all possible, I choose to do nothing at that time. If I choose to engage with someone, using THINK is a great guide for examining my motive before speaking or acting. Is what I am about to say/do something that is thoughtful, honest, intelligent, necessary, kind?
I know that the more attentive I am to working Alanon, the more emotional balance I feel in my life. When more balance, I'm more trusting of my higher power and myself. The reward is to be more serene, humble and centered. From that place, I'm more likely to take a breath before speaking or acting. I'm less ego driven. From a place of humility, I'm more apt to seek my hp's guidance rather than impose my will.
When I'm centered, I'm in a better place to see others as children of their own hp. When designate myself as higher power over others, this is a very unhealthy out of body experience but thankfully through prayer and meditation, I'm able to return to myself, to focus on what is best for me in any given moment and to honor that.
Yes.. "Quietness is a great ally." TT
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Thank you, LU, for posting today! I find that I absolutely need these daily postings... they keep me grounded.
I love everyone's shares. Thank you all for chiming in! I especially like tiredtonight's share of THINK - Thoughtful, Honest, Intelligent, Kind. Not sure why I haven't seen this one before, but I love it! A really good way for me to live my life!
This year, I have really worked a lot on me not reacting... out of fear, ego, necessity, you name it, I used to do it. Examining my past behaviors, I now know it was how I grew to be b/c of living with addiction in my life/household. I took iamhere's tagline 'Practice the Pause' to heart, and tried to apply it in all things. I wasn't always successful over the year, but I am getting better the more I do it! Now I have 'THINK' to add to my toolbox!
It is about 10 degrees cooler here - but it won't last long - so I am taking advantage of that, & I am going to plant some things in my yard that have needed to get into the ground, but I just couldn't do it b/c of the heat! I actually slept last night without A/C... just opened the windows... it was WONDERFUL! I really can't wait for Autumn!
I hope you all enjoy your weekend!
Peace & Love
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Great reminder Lu I used the slogans, and the serenity prayer to help me to detach and stop REActing.
I am so grateful for the gifts of this program . Thanks for your service
OMG...."Reacting" boy do I struggle with this one due to my fear based nature, needing to be in control, etc., fear when i am helpless/powerless..so I react and its usually anger or indulging in eating something really bad for me...projecting the worse case scenario.....its not as bad but still an issue with me........I have been focusing on the behavior modification by stopping...observing....letting myself "settle" THEN see what options I have...this is so ingrained in me, I reeeeeely have to "watch me" very closely....old patterns are so stubborn...they just don't want to leave, but I am not gonna give up on me......one day at a time...perseverence...dedication...practice....it HAS to get better...thank you LU for this "needed to see daily"
It's essential for me to look to each action or verbal communication without imposing my emotions onto it. When I can stay in this emotionally neutral mindset, I am better able to respond vs react. I like our slogan THINK - thoughtful, honest, intelligent, necessary, kind. For me these are communication assets. When it's a verbal response or taking an action, my goal is to be respectful and mature. I'm a work in progress.