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Picked my Al-Anon wife up at the airport last evening. She had been gone for 3 months and left me to the care of our MIP family and the rest of life as life is. I not only missed her looks and missed the sound of her voice and her mannerisms which caused me to smile and say "Sheeeees back" as parts of who she is and what she does returned. I walked the house last evening to make sure she was here and safe and comfortably asleep. "The care taker stalks"...LOL
And now this morning we continue where we left of 3 months ago and now I am reminded how the program can often work you while I relax curled up on the sofa reading one of the issues of our Forum magazine with so many membership printed shares. If you haven't subscribed I recommend it...awesome. I am simply just Blessed. Thanks for letting me share. ((((Hugs))))
I am in the southern Pacific and it is Saturday morning already... my day's tasks set ahead of me... faced the icy blasts of antarctica yesterday- but today should be sunny and bright. Buds bursting and early spring flowers appearing...
My SO is about three doors away- having a girlie weekend... with da. friend and four young kids.
I have garden chores- weeding, pruning and mulching... a community project...
Jerry, this share made me smile so wide, today! Your imagery of stalking the house making sure all was well, gave me a huge flashback to when I was young... that is exactly what my father did every night! I never knew how safe it made me feel until as an adult I never got that from my spouse, so I reluctantly took on that role.
Thank you for brightening my day, as I needed it... I am feeling under the weather, and in 100 degree heat, it's not fun! Thank goodness for the AC!!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
So Happy to hear of Your Homecoming :) I Don't think I have been away from mine for more then 5 days in a Clip, I Can't even Imagine 3 months :) I'm Sure it was Wonderful to See Her.. So Happy for you ;)
And I Also Enjoyed the Vision of you Tip-Toeing around the Home Making sure all is where its meant to be ;)
I also Enjoy a Great Forum, Thou if I'm Honest... I've Never Found a Bad one... :D
Thanks for Your Share Brother, Brightened my Rain covered Day
Jozie I keep growing with wisdom I was handed in the past. I lived a part this last 3 months where just before it came about I was doing knee jerk reactions at the thought of it and then a memory of the wisdom stepped back in and my spirit settled. The wisdom reads, "I love you and I like having your here and I don't need you". I vehemently reacted to that when I first heard it and then after some time in meditation I got it !! I was born alone and not with a list of names of those I would take care of or who I relied upon to take care of me....Me and HP...Simple. ((((hugs))))
(((Jerry))) - so super cool that she's back home and life resumes! I 'hear' your joy in your share and it warms my heart. I too had memories of my father going about the house to ensure all was safe and sound when we were winding down for the night. I too took on that role here - my AH trusts all and leaves doors open, unlocked, etc. I feel safe and always have, but still am a door-locker for the overnight!
It's nice to be wanted; it's not so nice to be 'needed'.....I am very grateful that my AH and I were both independent people prior to our marriage and function together or apart. When my momma had her stroke and I took off to be of service, he did step up, handle what was necessary, kept the dog alive, the garden alive and even did some laundry. I was grateful and joyful upon return as I've never just left within an hour for extended time away before - I'm a planner and a worrier by nature.
You had some 'life' happen while she was away my friend and there's no doubt you leaned into program, HP and healthy support to manage well. I am so very glad you're part of my journey! (((Hugs))) - enjoy the moment and the day!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
(((((((((((((((Jerry))))))))))))) beautiful share!!!!! and yes, I tell my loved ones...."I don't love you because I need you, I need you because of love you" and even then, the "need" part is with loving detachment..... and like you said, I was born alone...but its soo good to have loved ones around.....lovely share.....
I stumbled all over that saying when I first heard it, even running away from the friend that shared it with me. I thought the "I don't need you" part a egotistical put down and of course I would because my thinking was self centered at the time. With time to think about it with meditation and the steps I was gently brought to the truth that I have a higher power who I need and want and rely on. Others in my life can and are used by my Higher Power to manage my life and Higher Power comes first in line. (((hugs))) I do love and like you though...all of you.
-- Edited by JerryF on Saturday 18th of August 2018 11:55:15 AM
Others in my life can and are used by my Higher Power to manage my life and Higher Power comes first in line. (((hugs))) aww I do love and like you though...all of you.
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Back at you (((((((((((((Jerry))))))))))) i had the same reaction when told "I don't need you" I only saw rejection, not being loved, and ya, it was all my ego..self centered.......to me we are INTERdependent on each other as we are social animals, but its a give and take and if one person can't meet a need of mine, i can go to another...just like they on me......my HP within me is my #1, my higher self, oh yea, but it is real nice when I do have others in my life with whom we share a healthy, loving interdependence on each other........SO glad to share this journey with you, dear brother Jerry.......I absolutely love your share...You inspire me to re-think and try other things, not to be so myopic on some things.....THANK you for all you do and most important----What/who you ARE!!!!!! XO
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