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Hey Family, Just wanted to Give a Bit of an Update about my Friend I've been Worried about:
His Surgery was last Thurs. and the Docs feel they have removed the Cancer, and they didn't find any in his Lymph's (Praise God) but we are still waiting on test results to say what else they may have found... Praise God he made it thru the Surgery, but is having a hard time with food currently... Just no desire to Eat, and when he Try's he gets sick, so they are trying to find him something better for his belly...
Like mentioned last week, with his Kidney functions being so Weak right now, they are waiting to see how he Heals from the surgery before they gear him up for anything else... So Thank you Each and All that Helped me with my Fears...
I Went to His Home like I Promised I would, and we sat and Cried, and Laughed for 3 hours, there was about a handful of peeps that would come in and out but mostly it was just him and I, and We did A lot of Catching up, and Talking about the Future he hopes he is worthy of with his Daughter...
I'm So Grateful I came here and Read what you all wrote before I Went, because I was so Trapped in Fear, and So Afraid I wouldn't be what he Needed, but he made sure to tell Everyone that stepped thru the Door... "I'm Having a Great Day Thanks to Her/Me!" We hadn't sat down together, in a very long time, and he stated he didn't want to Bother me with his Junk Knowing I have so Much on my Plate with My Gram, and Family Junk... He Now Knows... His Presents in my life is just as Important as All the Peeps I Love, and I was Sorry he Ever Doubted it... I don't believe he will again...
This Program has truly Changed My Life, and Each of you has had a Part in that... To be able to sit in Moments of Despair, and Still Know its Ok to Cry, Ok To Be Sad, Ok to Grieve truly is a Blessings after the way I Raised... I was Taught to Stuff that Junk as Far down as You Can, and Just Keep Moving... I'm Grateful for the Sake of My Friend, I didn't stuff it, and Told him Just How much he meant to me, Even Still... We have been friends for Over 30 years, and even tho Life happens, We still have a Bond that has tied us at the Heart... We have been thru many Ups and Downs with one another, and this Program Allowed me to Be ME in the Face of Fear...
To know this Man is to Love him, he is the Most Humble Person I have Ever Loved, his Concern was more about me and My Family, then his Own... And he Mentioned how Proud he was of Me that I Stood outside the Crowd and Got Sober... I know he Told me 3 times how Proud he was at where My Life has Gone, yet in his Eyes, I'm still the Loving, Caring, Light Hearted person I Always was to Him... Peeps don't realize how much Simple Compliments can Mean to someone... I know that I Don't get that Support from My FOO Family, and That's ok... But Hearing it from Him meant more to me then anything...
I Once apologized For Crying, (As he was with me!) Because I Didn't come there to Upset him! and He just Smiled and Said, "If we Didn't share tears we wouldn't be Who we are to each other!" and He is So Right... He has Accepted me on Life's Terms since we met as Kids, and he has seen me at my Lowest more then once...And Loves me Anyway :)
So... Family... Thank you For Reminding me that BEING ME IS OK... Even if I am a Hot Mess from time to time... Your Love & Understanding has Allowed me to Grow Beyond anything I Ever thought Possible, One Day at a time :) My Heart is So Grateful for all your Love... And Thank you Also for Checking in on Me, and Caring enough to do so...
And to End on a Happy Note... My Niece Had a Beautiful Baby Girl on Monday, and I Got to Witness the Birth of My Great Niece and Nothing in this World could have been More Special then Watching Life Happen Right before my Eyes...(She has 3 Kids and I Got to Watch all 3 Be Born) She had a Beautiful Healthy Baby Girl... And the Blessings Continue :) HP Puts me Right where I'm Meant to Be :)
((Jozie))) yep..hes lucky to have you...your love helped...Believe me, love can and does make a spirit feel better......positive thoughts continuing.....Hope U R resting and taking care of yourself...Illness of a loved one when you feel so helpless can be sooo exhausting.......Hugs
-- Edited by mamalioness on Wednesday 15th of August 2018 06:52:01 PM
(((Jozie))) - thanks for updating us. He sounds remarkable and how cool that you and he have that almost life-long bond of unconditional love and acceptance! So, so glad that he's through the surgery and you + he got to be authentic as it should be!
Congrats. on the baby! I got to see my second grandchild come into this world, and it's truly an amazing, miraculous experience....Take good care and know prayers and positive thoughts continue for you, him, family, etc. (((Hugs))) - feel good that you are a great friend to your great friend!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Oh my goodness! I was re-reading your post and marveling at the courage and love that you have in your heart and then at the very end you talk about your niece having a baby girl. Oh that is so cool. And you got to see the other ones be born. I think it is the most beautiful thing. I had a foster child whom I had to break up with because of her refusal to get into recovery and her cruelty towards me, but I did get to see my little baby Adrian get born I helped deliver him, and it was the most exciting thing that ever happened. That is why I cannot ever stop loving C even though It was in my best interest to separate from her. I was in the process of trying to arrange visitation rights between her husband and me whom I am still friends with but he got transferred and they moved out of town and are pretty far away from me now. So it is what it is. But I got to see him be born. And the bond I had with him up until they left, was incredible. Hopefully one day I will see him again. Congratulations to your niece and her new little baby precious girl
Jozie, thank you for sharing this! This was so positive and uplifting for me!
Continued prayers for your friend for healing.
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
(((Hotrod))) Thank you So Much :) So Much Love & Gratitude to you Always :)
(((Rosie))) Thank you also for your Kind Words... Yes, Seeing my Great Niece be born was Indeed a Huge Blessing, So Grateful they was OK with me Taking Part in Such the Miracle of Life... I Only had One Son Myself, but I have now watched (1) Nephew, (2) Great Nephews & (1) Great Niece be Born... I Hope our Bond in Life will Always Be Strong... Just as the Bond with My Friend & I :) HP Really has Blessed me with the Best Love... For that I have No Complaints :)
(((I am Here)))) Thank you so Much :) Yes I am too and So Relieved that Part of his Journey is Behind him, and I'm Just Praying there is Light Coming to him Soon in his Recovery from this Horrible Disease of Cancer..
And Thanks so Much, The Baby looks like a True Angel :) And we couldn't be Happier...
And Thank you All for Continued Prayers, Good Vibes, and Love... Forever Grateful for all
