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The Odat reading for today, 8-4 speaks about our our unrealistic expectations of others and ourselves. It points out by relying on this "Defect" we often become angry and DISAPPOINTED because other do not live up to OUR expectations,
i have found that Expectations are extremely destructive and when i learned to move into ACCEPTANCE my life becomes more manageable and serene
We need to pray for courage and kindness and remind ourselves of self-care. As the little saying goes at the end of meetings, "we're worth it" -- worthy of living, worthy of serenity. It is so difficult for me to feel worthwhile, that my life is of value as is without comparing it to others, or setting benchmarks of what I should contribute to the world.
Thanks Betty. This reading was meant for me this morning. I still want my A to get to AA, get a sponsor, and work the steps. Fortunately, reality quickly follows, and the only thing I can do, if I don't want to be miserable, is ACCEPT. That includes letting go of my expectations for someone else, and put the focus right back on me. Sometimes I don't like reality, but really, what else can there be if I want to be peaceful and sane? Lyne
Thank you Betty for the daily and your service. Thank you and Lyne for your shares and ESH. I arrived with unrealistic expectations - self and others. Part of the unrealistic was I was so convinced that my way was the right way. I learned shades of gray in recovery as well as there are many roads to the destination and it's much more peaceful to enjoy the journey!
Most times, when I feel discontent, I can see where my will and my expectations often are the root cause. When I can let go, accept and trust the process and my HP, all goes much easier.
Happy Saturday all - love having a day with no plans. Make it a great one!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
This is a great reading,I've enjoyed learning,
Thank you Betty for filling in for me,your a blessing .
Thanks for all the great esh received here,,,amazes me still.
Wonderful program we have here.
Thank you ((((((((((all))))))))))
