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As some of you know I've been apt/ duplex hunting,
i did go meet with the lady on the 1st duplexes ,wasnt what I wanted after all way to isolated,and distance to get anywhere.
i checked that off my list,
moving forward as fas I can ,I started out at 8 am looking,after a tiredsome day and 10 hrs later I did find where and what I wanted ,,I did take time out for myself and enjoyed a me only lunch,which was very peaceful and serene,good self care.
i filled out a application for the apartments I liked,there's not any waiting list for these apts for their brand new ,yay me.
It's not what I set out looking for as in duplex,
i can learn to live in apartment,after coming straight out of an house,,cheaper everything with apt living,
also small,reason I'm asking for 2 bedroom apts,I got to much stuff,been downsizing for yrs,knowing I would end up with apt,just being myself and my 12 yr old 4 lb yorkypoo.
im excited...I can feel my age working big time on me as it took me a day or 2 to get over the stress part of looking...
thanks for listening ,.........LU
p.s. If I've crossed or ran over another's topic,share here on board,I'm sorry,i can get ahead of myself,not seeing another's thread before I begin my thread..........plz forgive me,,,,,,love lu......
Moving of Any kind has Always Caused me Stress, I Remember After My Parents Split My Mom moved us 11 times in 10 years around the Same little Town! I Felt All I Did was Live out of Boxes... :/
Sounds to me like you are Taking Care of You :) And in a Good way... I Personally LOVE Just me Lunches from time to time, I take my Daily with me and just ENJOY the Silence or the Noise depending on where I Eat..lol
I Wish you Nothing But Wonderful things in your New Place :) I Hope you get everything you want and More... Moving on is Tough, but Going at it One Day at a Time, Is truly the Part that Brings The Blessings ;)
Hey LU - sending you tons of positive mojo that the apt. application and process goes smooth and as needed! Keep us posted!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks Josie and iah for your replies,
I think getting apt will run smooth
It's the deposits to be placed everywhere ,because it is in next town over,I'll need to place new accounts,no transfers of any kind.
I'll still be alright ,I've got plenty of extra time or all the time I need to be studying on this,
I'm glad I'm alot closer than I was ,
Taking baby steps all the way through,
Lived here in same house 20 yrs renting,
Lived here in this town for 45 yrs.
It has served me well over the yrs,,just I feel I do need a change of scenery etc,
I do dearly love this other town I'm looking into,lots to offer,,lots more.
Lots bigger town...I have good ppl that live there to...
This sounds like wonderful news, LU!! I am glad to hear that you think actually getting the place won't be a hassle.
I will be looking forward to more positive posts from you!
Namaste
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
((((LU))))...My wife and I have found that along with the other events in life changing homes requires a bunch of moxie especially as we age and move toward senior living. Having the program available to us makes it so much more doable. Participating in our lives and also the lives of near family relatives does require a power much more greater than anything else we might rely upon. Thanks for the Update lesson.
When I was going through my darkest times and leaving my house -- I found that it wasn't as much about leaving a "house" and going to a "condo" as much as it was about change, moving, anxiety, etc. Typical moving stuff, LOL.
However, an amazing thing happened...once I go to this new condo...and I moved from a huge house, that I custom built, with everything I could have ever wanted, to a small, 2BR condo, and although very, very nice, still a massive "change"...the amazing thing was...it was mine. Rented, owned, didn't matter. It was mine. New, starting from day one, from scratch. It was freeing, enlightening and empowering. No "us" stuff, bad memories, any memories. It wasn't a marital home, shared, it wasn't anything to do with that part of my life. It was truly amazing!!! You have so much to look forward to. Life -- the life you want, dreamed of, and more than you wanted and dreamed of, is right there. It is right in front of you...go get it!!!
All the best.
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Bo
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
Thank you bo,love your replies,
I am leaving a lot behind both good and bad ,,bad memories .
I am looking forward to this ,it's gonna be a huge transition for me,
Leaving behind freinds,I know I can and will make new freinds,
To me it's like It's like I will be getting a whole new lease on life,a new slate,
Getting to start over with my new self with my recovery and tools I've got from alanon,
I feel this is the right thing to do,
It will have its ups n downs to,
I'll be able to move forward with life,onto new things,places n people.
May be a while before I can ,like I said I'm leaving it up to my hp,he is my pilot
Love all the esh I've gotten here,,,,,((((((Alanoners))))) are a wonderfully awesome people here........Lu
I hear you and I get it. I went through all of that, although I was only moving 2 miles away, LOL. I didn't have to deal with the friends thing in that I already had my friends and moving wasn't going to change that. It is however NEW and EXCITING and you will feel great!!! I had been in the rooms of alanon for 23 years at the time and just having a new place, without being scared or afraid of what I might come home to, what was going to be waiting for me at home, etc. -- was so freeing! It was amazing. It still is!!!
You are moving forward, in the right direction, with health, happiness, calmness, serenity, and knowing how to live and enjoy life!!!
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Bo
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
