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I'm traveling again, so today's topic is from today's hope.
The author shares that the theme of letting go can apply to many aspects of life, and when we let go, we are able to enjoy the fullness that is life. When we let go of our cares and worries, we free our minds to enjoy the wonders around us.
The quote is from Saint Thomas Aquinas: Faith has to do with things that are not seen and hope has to do with things not at hand.
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This topic seems perfect for me this week. I am visiting family up north, and was here to experience a big-very big- thunder and electric storm. The rain that came with it washed out most of the roads. I could have worried about that, and how i would get home, but if i had, i would have missed out on a lovely canoe trip up the river here that is usually too shallow to paddle up. And aside from removing some of the smaller fallen trees, im not much help with getting the roads back to driveable shape anyway. Good news today is that it looks like I'll be able to head home as scheduled tomorrow, but I'll have to drive south and then east instead of East as then south. A minor adjustment, really, and one i can make easily if i let go of my plan for how i was going to get home.
I hope you make today a great day!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
I love this topic Skorpi and am so pleased that you wee able to "let go " of anixety so as to enjoy the visit and then have the wisdom to plan the new route home. i am busty implementing this tool often these days as I adjust to my new living arrangements. Last night I needed to" let go" of my old tool of sarcasm because I resented the TV show he wanted to see and i agreed to watch. Detachment and letting go have become my new go to tools. I am still a work in progress Have a great day and safe trip
Thank you Skorpi for the daily and your service. Thank you and Betty for your ESH and shares. I wish you safe travels heading home and am glad you found pleasure in your canoe trip - sounds like great fun!
I guess my HP thinks I am growing as I'm having many chances to practice letting go each and every day. The longer I'm around recovery, the more powerless I see that I am and the real serenity is seeing that, believing that and just letting go...much easier to write about than to do yet I still practice it often/always.
I am grateful for a morning/day with no plans until this evening. I've been playing a ton of golf and am exhausted as it's been hotter than hot here. We are to get some storms here later and we do need the rain badly. Make it a great day MIP - thanks for being a part of my journey!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you for this topic. I hope everyone has a great day.
This was a perfect one for me today. AH is coming home from rehab today. All of the thoughts of...
Should I still be with him?
Is this going to go well?
Was that meeting at rehab with the therapist and all of his anger the way things will go?
I donāt know the answers to any of those things. What if things go okay or weāll? Nicer to think about but still leaves me having around that corner of wonder. I need to let it go. Iām now letting it go. What a relief. Thanks an awful lot for this wonderful way to start my day and for the courage and serenity it reminded me I have. Best to all of you.
Thank you Skorpi for your service. I sure hope that your travels will be safe. Since I LOVE thunderstorms (storms in general), where you were sounded exciting! I know I would've loved that canoe trip! Thanks for sharing that, as I had visuals while I was reading your share!
I especially liked what IAH shared, b/c I am finding that I apply this concept of "Letting it Go" to all things now. Some days I am really good at it... other days it REALLY takes work! But the good news is that I am WILLING to try.
((((sunmustshine)))) My support goes out to you. Take it One Day at a Time - maybe even One Moment at a Time!
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thank you Skorpi for posting this topic and for your service. I really enjoyed your share and especially what you said at the end of your post: "I hope you make today a great day!" I have never heard that. Just amazing but true that we can make our own day. What a wonderful thought to begin with! Last night I was unsure if AH drank/used or not. We were relaxing in our bedroom and then he got up and left the house for a period of time. Instead of relaxing, I was suddenly caught in anxiety and hesitation about what to do. I spent a very uncomfortable half-hour of my own making. Al anon has taught me that I can detach, let go, just take it a moment at a time instead of living in the fear of "what if." I took some deep breathes, then watched my favorite late night show (always makes me laugh) and did some reading before I went to bed. I need to work more on letting go, it felt much better than worrying! I hope everyone can make it a great day today. :)
-- Edited by sakina on Wednesday 20th of June 2018 09:36:09 AM
Thanks for your service, Skorpi, and all the ESH above. I love this reading for today. Letting go is something I'm learning really slowly, my normal way of living has been for a long time cramping into things I don't have control over... Thanks to this program I am learning that I'm doing this, that it is wasted energy, and that letting go frees me... One step at a time.
Thank you Skorpi and everyone! Is this TV week or something??? If so, I flunked my end. He had a show on a few nights ago that just went all over me. My home situation is self, always going to bed earlier than he does. And, I get up much earlier also. It's always works so well. He gets his mancave and TV, I get my quiet time in both the evening and mornings. Our time connecting is usually watching something we both enjoy together. Thankfully we both enjoy the same movies etc. This time I was doctoring a gosling and instead of putting on something he usually watches or something we could both watch, he put on a show I hate............and he knows it. It felt quite intentional.
My bad was waiting and ignoring the show till it was done and yet another one coming on......until I blew. Yep, blew....blew it........I did say, if he would like to watch that garbage he could let me know since he knows I can't stand it (along with a few choice expletives here and there Uhg!) and I can go to the bedroom. I also said he stays up late so he could watch it then, that I did not appreciate him taking that short amount of time before my going to be to put it on. Honestly it was like he was a 2 year old testing to see how far he could push the envelope. I'm not sure what all transpired in that short time and it's NOT like me to blow. I should have politely got up and left after the feeding or asked politely if he could please watch something else until etc......that is not like him and it's not like me. Yes to the coda part in me tho, it is getting better, in the past I would have been quiet and resented it instead of saying something. Granted it came out totally bad. More work, always more work BUT I am getting it as I go along LOL. And, I did apologize profusely. We had been under tremendous pressure in many areas those few days.
I hadn't thought anything about it until yesterday. He really caught me off guard. He called just to tell me he loves me, the call got interrupted right away. When he got home last night he said the same thing and then threw me off........he said he wanted me to know how much he appreciated me and just look at all I had to put up with. ????? really??? I thought I was always the one he had to put up with.........and had I been angry over the TV issue, it still would not have appeared to me that I had anything to put up with...........
My brain is still absorbing all this. I don't want to assume. I guess I am doing some guessing and assuming......but also seeing some of the program work? I backed off the no alcohol in the home a couple weeks back. We had a very serious talk about his drinking and driving. The compromise we came to was for him to only have the amount he was going to drink in the evenings and leave none here. That leaves the guilt off me (yep can't handle thinking of a wreck at my being part of it) and still puts the burden on him to either buy it daily or hide it vs it being in the fridge etc.
I am wondering if his drinking nightly is why he said what he did. He's never said anything like that in the past......and my response was look what all you are putting up with right now too on my end. I just said light heartedly I feel the same and I really meant it. He looked sad.......all this is new....
So yes, letting go and having faith in the unseen really is peaceful and........even when I blow it, it's so much easier to let things go these days. Just having the tools to do that is huge! Anxiety doesn't have to remain, it can visit and leave quickly!
I hope everyone has an amazing afternoon and evening. HUGS!!!
I am still a work in progress