The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Comparing: The writer says that the only valid comparisons are between herself as she is and the self she used to be. When she thinks of Step 2, being restored to sanity, such a comparison comes to her mind. She talks of an incident 20 years ago, where she crashed her bike, and instead of being grateful and seeing her blessings, she was angry and blamed others.
Today's Reminder: Looking back, I see many examples of the grace of a Power greater than myself at work in my life. I see progress in being restored to sanity, and I am increasingly confident that my progress will continue.
Quote from Maltbie D. Babcock: Our business in life is not to get ahead of other people, but to get ahead of ourselves .
This is a great reading to me because I spent years comparing myself to others and always falling short. I think my sponsor taught me that Compare=Despair. It is refreshing to hear that I only need to look at myself, how I was and how I am today. And today with program, I'm in much better shape in every possible way. I too, have confidence that my progress will continue, Lyne
Hello Lyne Great topic for today I do believe that prior to program, I automatically compared 'Everything " that I encountered during the day. I evaluated myself against an unrealistic scale and usually found myself lacking.
I love how the program pointed out that this was another attitude that needed changing and that simply by using the tools, I would discover that when'I compare i despair" and that it is best to simply look at myself only and compare myself today to how i acted a year or a month ago. That helped greatly and gave me more material for my gratitude list
Thanks for your service and have a lovely day
Lyne - thanks for your service and the daily. Thank you also and Betty for your shares and ESH. I was competing and comparing for my entire life, at least as long as I can remember backwards. I never measured up and it was a ton of time wasted. I'm grateful that Al-Anon suggested I just focus on me and that which I could change. I also am grateful that we are asked to consider progress as success vs. perfection. My approach, outlook and attitudes before recovery were all about perfection and perception. Today, I prefer authentic and real no matter what it is. Trusting in a HP helps me look for the facts and what is instead of what I think it should be.
Happy Monday to one and all. Off to golf with my son first thing in the AM. It's taken a lifetime (his) to find something of common interest, and in all my days, I never thought it would be golf...yet it is. Make it a great day!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
