Al-Anon Group Home Page
Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room
Site Technical Problems or Questions?
Step Work Board - A Step every month!
Online Meeting Schedules

Al-Anon Family Group
Message Board

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

"Real" Al-Anon Meeting Directory

A new step every month in the order they were written!

Al-Anon's 12 Steps & 12 Traditions

Members Login
    Remember Me  
Post Info TOPIC: Courage to Change May 16

~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 747
Courage to Change May 16

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about tradition 8: "Al-Anon Twelfth Step work should remain forever non-professional..." 

The author shares that this tradition allows AlAnon members to come together, not because someone is leading and others are following, but because we as a group have a specific and common goal. We as individuals contribute to the healing power of the group by sharing our own personal stories of experience, strength, and hope. The author also reminds us that sometimes, we might grapple with problems that Al-Anon does not address, and in those cases, many have found it useful to seek help from other sources as well. 

Today's Reminder: A wonderfully nurturing atmosphere is created when people help other people by being themselves and sharing their own experiences. I will contribute to this interchange today. 

Today's Quote: "...we meet as equals and help one another, not because some are experts and others are learners, but because we all have needs and strengths." Al-Anon's Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions


What a nice reminder for today! I am an over-committer, and I tend to take over and step into leaderships roles, whether I ought to or not. Thanks to tradition 8, I am learning that I do not always need to lead and be in charge, that I can participate in a group as an equal member, and that I can contribute to the healing power of the group by allowing others to share equally in running group meetings and sharing their ESH. This practice has been hard at times - knowing when to step up and when to step back is something I am still navigating, but I am feeling more comfortable with it and getting better with practice  

Last night I finished mowing my yard (aka beginner ski slope) and I'm feeling good about not needing to worry about the foot-high grass for the rest of this week. Strange weather this spring - with all the rain, the grass took off, but it was too wet on the few non-rainy days to be safe to mow. Today, I'm looking forward to spending time on a hobby - auto mechanics. I'll probably just change the oil and check te fluid levels, but it is still enjoyable. 

I hope you make today a great day! 



If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu

~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 16474

Lovely reminder Skorpi I love the Traditions as they clearly state the principles by which we connect and thrive . This Tradition as well as many others clearly outlines the fact that we are a fellowship of equals. I love the fact that some of the most painful times in our lives can serve a positive function when we have the courage to share or own ESH with another.

This Tradition reinforces the fact that all that we need to recover from the adverse effects of this dreadful disease is the simple program offered by alanon and the sharing of members
Thanks for your service and honesty Skorpi Enjoy your day




~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 1869

Good morning and thank you for your service Skorpi! It has taken me a long time to understand and practice the principles of Alanon. The beauty in the 12th step for me is knowing my value as I value others and to practice Alanon in all of my affairs. Courage and practice, rinse and repeat! I am grateful.


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 9039

Good morning MIP! Thanks Skorpi for the daily and your service. Thank you, Betty and bud also for your shares and ESH. What I love about the traditions is they set the stage for each member, new or long-time, to be an equal. I know that for me and my growth, those who share openly and from the heart tend to help open my own mind and heart. I am forever grateful that we all come together doing the best we can to live and grow one day at a time! It helps me feel like one of many vs. lessor than or greater than.

Happy Hump Day - make it lovely! I've got some chores to get done and then golf league tonight. We've got a break from softball until after Memorial Day so time to work on my other interests. As my dog walked me this morning, I was reminded how grateful I am to just be me...what a miracle that is, directly tied to this program, my sponsor and those who came before me! (((Hugs))) to all!


Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene



Page 1 of 1  sorted by
Quick Reply

Please log in to post quick replies.

Tweet this page Post to Digg Post to