The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Alcoholism is a disease: The writer spoke of the need to accept alcoholism as a real disease, just like tuberculosis or diabetes. With that acceptance , she could stop trying to cure her loved one. She also decided to stop blaming the alcoholic, for it was beyond his/her control. The best thing she could do was focus on her own recovery, where her efforts could do some good. She also recognized that improved health in one family member could have a positive effect on the rest of the family.
Today's Reminder: When I accept that alcoholism is a disease, it becomes easier to recognize that I, too, have been affected by something beyond my control, and to begin to recover from those effects.
Quote from A Guide for the Family of the Alcoholic: Whether or not the alcoholic achieves sobriety, the time for the family members to begin working on their own recovery is now.
When I first came to program, I thought I would learn how to fix my A. I knew I was miserable beyond belief, but I had no clue that alcoholism had taken its toll on me. Of course in time things began to make sense, and the quote today is so important: the time for the family to work on themselves is NOW. I couldn't agree more, Lyne
Good Mornigng Lyne I too had difficulty accepting the fact that alcoholism was a disease but once my "Know it all" attitude accepted this basic truth program fell into place and the tools were easy to implement "Acceptance" was the key to much of my recovery work I stopped reacting and started to reason things out and when i did I found that I could fce life with courage, serenity and wisdom Thank you for your service your recovery is impressive
Good morning, MIP! Lyne, thank you for your service
I, too, thought I would discover in Al-Anon the secret to getting my alcoholic wife to stop drinking. What I found was the secret to making myself happy, regardless of what she was doing.
I've heard it said that my recovery can be as easy or as hard as I want it to be. I'm so glad I've decided to stop making it hard with the help of my Al-Anon program and friends.
I hope you all have a great day!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily! Thanks to all for your ESH and shares....I know that when I stopped blaming my guys and instead accepted it as a disease, it did clear the path for changed attitudes and thinking in me. For so, so long I took it all personally and obsessed over why they were choosing to do what they were doing. It was an insane, circular thinking and obsession for me, and I do not think I would have found serenity without accepting alcoholism as a disease that is outside my control.
Life is easier when I keep things simple. Fighting the disease and the diseased has never ended well for me! Happy Monday (((all))) - make it a lovely day!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
